"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How would you go about asking out a girl from your sports club?

Eternal_water

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There is a girl at the badminton group I play at on Wednesdays that I would be very interested in dating, we get on well and have a laugh on court. (I don't know if she is single or not though)

Would you risk asking out someone that you see every week and getting rejected and things then becoming awkward?

And if you did how would you go about it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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JoeMarron

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Rejection is better than regret. Walk up to her, say "hey lets hang out at (whaterver place) at (whatever time)," on the date escalate when you feel its appropriate, profit.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Aristippus

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You can simply have a good time at the sports club and at some point during your conversation, you can bring the topic up of things in general that you both enjoy doing. At that point, you can then say "Hey, I want to try out that new place we were talking about (or I was planning on going to such and such a place). You should come with me. Here's my number.". Then you give her your number. At this point, you simply wait and see if she volunteers her number without you asking. If she volunteers her number that's a good sign. If she doesn't but calls you, that's a good sign. When I say it's a good sign, I'm not saying that automatically means she's interested in anything other than friendship. She might be or she might not.

At the very least, you'll be enjoying each other's company as friends and if she starts flirting a lot, getting very touchy-feely, asking you if you have a girlfriend or doing things like accidentally bumping her breasts or a$$ into you repeatedly when you're both out or if she does something like rub your chest or lay her hand or hands on your chest for a few seconds, then you can hold her hand. If she likes holding hands with you, you can kiss her.

The idea is, you move forward non-verbally or allow her to show interest or lack of, non-verbally, without ever having asked her on a "date". This is actually a way to test her and it's also a way to notice her level of interest without ever verbalizing romantic interest. So chances of a verbal rejection are slim to none. She either fails to get together with you, or when you're together, she shows only friendship type behaviors. On the other hand, if she likes you as more than a friend, she will start with friendly/ friendship type behaviors but then she will do other things like repeatedly invading your space and she might steer the conversation to a sexual topic. At that point, you can do something like squeeze her knee gently and see how she reacts. If she likes that, you can hold her hand or put your arm around her.

If you're holding hands for a while, it's very likely she will welcome a kiss. So you just got the answer of whether she is interested or not. You also get to see whether or not you're really interested in her once you spend time with her outside of the sports club setting. This kind of approach not only minimizes rejection but it also works very well if done properly.
 
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