"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How would you go about asking out a girl from your sports club?

Eternal_water

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There is a girl at the badminton group I play at on Wednesdays that I would be very interested in dating, we get on well and have a laugh on court. (I don't know if she is single or not though)

Would you risk asking out someone that you see every week and getting rejected and things then becoming awkward?

And if you did how would you go about it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JoeMarron

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Rejection is better than regret. Walk up to her, say "hey lets hang out at (whaterver place) at (whatever time)," on the date escalate when you feel its appropriate, profit.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Aristippus

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You can simply have a good time at the sports club and at some point during your conversation, you can bring the topic up of things in general that you both enjoy doing. At that point, you can then say "Hey, I want to try out that new place we were talking about (or I was planning on going to such and such a place). You should come with me. Here's my number.". Then you give her your number. At this point, you simply wait and see if she volunteers her number without you asking. If she volunteers her number that's a good sign. If she doesn't but calls you, that's a good sign. When I say it's a good sign, I'm not saying that automatically means she's interested in anything other than friendship. She might be or she might not.

At the very least, you'll be enjoying each other's company as friends and if she starts flirting a lot, getting very touchy-feely, asking you if you have a girlfriend or doing things like accidentally bumping her breasts or a$$ into you repeatedly when you're both out or if she does something like rub your chest or lay her hand or hands on your chest for a few seconds, then you can hold her hand. If she likes holding hands with you, you can kiss her.

The idea is, you move forward non-verbally or allow her to show interest or lack of, non-verbally, without ever having asked her on a "date". This is actually a way to test her and it's also a way to notice her level of interest without ever verbalizing romantic interest. So chances of a verbal rejection are slim to none. She either fails to get together with you, or when you're together, she shows only friendship type behaviors. On the other hand, if she likes you as more than a friend, she will start with friendly/ friendship type behaviors but then she will do other things like repeatedly invading your space and she might steer the conversation to a sexual topic. At that point, you can do something like squeeze her knee gently and see how she reacts. If she likes that, you can hold her hand or put your arm around her.

If you're holding hands for a while, it's very likely she will welcome a kiss. So you just got the answer of whether she is interested or not. You also get to see whether or not you're really interested in her once you spend time with her outside of the sports club setting. This kind of approach not only minimizes rejection but it also works very well if done properly.
 
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