"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How would you end it ?

mv.89

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So a simple question. I have read that don't let women treat you like dirt or disrespect you. If you think the women is stepping over the line and has been flaking on and on

How do you end it ? Take out all the frustration on her? Tell her she's just a b!tch with not enough self esteem to meet in person

or just be like Okay w.e Thanks for wasting my time,

or just stop texting ?

Sometimes we know that a girl isn't even worth it and we still try to score her and then end up getting flaked on cuz I thought if you meet em once you can bag em and take

treat them in a similar manner to make them feel how we felt. I've improved a lot after reading on here but this thing I wanted to ask some veteran DJs

So how do you guys go about it ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mv.89 said:
So a simple question. I have read that don't let women treat you like dirt or disrespect you. If you think the women is stepping over the line and has been flaking on and on

How do you end it ? Take out all the frustration on her? Tell her she's just a b!tch with not enough self esteem to meet in person

or just be like Okay w.e Thanks for wasting my time,

or just stop texting ?

Sometimes we know that a girl isn't even worth it and we still try to score her and then end up getting flaked on cuz I thought if you meet em once you can bag em and take

treat them in a similar manner to make them feel how we felt. I've improved a lot after reading on here but this thing I wanted to ask some veteran DJs

So how do you guys go about it ?

i would just go ghost and delete her number and never answer her calls or messages
 

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So basically keeping frustration to ourselves. I understand some would say never let her get to a point where she becomes a frustration but sometimes we get carried away and end result is abysmal. In that scenario, still being a ghost the MO?
 

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Stop talking to her and give extremely short replies to her , just the be polite.
 

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Simply cutting off contact is sometimes the most appropriate action but I think it's more satisfying to be direct and tell her exactly the reason you're ending it, that she's been flaking or whatever. sends a clearer message. Just as long as you don't come off as bitter about it, just talk about it like you're getting rid of a toaster that doesn't work anymore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mv.89 said:
So how do you guys go about it ?
Just leave and trade up to a better girl.

The worst thing you can do to a girl who is stuffing you around, is to find another one and look like you're having a lot more fun than when you're with her.
 

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I think it's more satisfying to be direct and tell her exactly the reason you're ending it, that she's been flaking or whatever. sends a clearer message. Just as long as you don't come off as bitter about it

Oxymoron^

If you want to tell her off, shes clearly phased you. Unlike a relationship where your occasional thunderbolt should be feared...this girl will just laugh and you look like a chump.

Follow zinc advice. NC her.
 

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Unless you're face to face, don't bother with telling her off. Just delete her off and don't answer texts or calls. If you bump into her, then you say it to her face, smile, and walk away. Doing over text or a phone call is girly, so don't bother.
 

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Just deleting her off seems so unsatisfying , I mean she already has no interest doesn't that mean she couldn't care less about not getting a text from us ?

But I understand if we actually say something bitter or curse her off it'll make us come out as desperate and all
 

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I mean she already has no interest doesn't that mean she couldn't care less about not getting a text from us ?

Who gives a sh1t if she cares or not.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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