How women desire men

[jhonny9546]

Have you ever noticed that a woman’s desire for you was intense at the beginning of a relationship, but faded over time, especially after marriage or kids?
This raises the question: how do women experience desire? Also: Is it the same for all women or only some?


Often, a woman’s desire is strongest when she fears losing the man, her provider, or when he’s distant, when she feels threatened by other women. In these cases, she may try harder to keep him, and desire him sexually, driven by fear.
But when a man is stable, caring, and responsible (doing chores, being kind), desire, then sex, may become more of a logical "reward," so driven by prescription.


For an instance, we know that women with abandonment issues could exaggerate their FOMO. So this might happened to you:
When the man tries to end the relationship, she may suddenly become extremely sexual, trying to win him back with intense desire. She will start stalking him everywhere and telling him how his **** should scratch the back of her throat and pound her ass all night long. It’s like cutting off her air.


After the honeymoon phase, women often shift into “prescribed desire” for their partner, while natural instincts can shift toward other men. (This also confirmed with high SMV men, just give a look at VIP's relationships).

But, if the relationship is toxic, trauma bonding can keep the desire alive, sometimes for decades, because She is still in that fase, driven by fear.

But what about healthy relationships?
We don't know, but what we know, is that healthy man, make the best of their life, have good careers, friendships, but are not desired long term by their women, who will actually for for the "next thing" as soon as it will be presented to them

 

[bmp2cpm]

Seems your overall question is to how to keep a woman long-term without her cheating. It can be done. I will say some of your assumptions are false.

Answers to all your questions below.

• The reason it is intense in the beginning is because her sole focus is to secure resources, ie you!
• It seems to fade. But in reality it is changing from the focus of obtaining resources (you) to implementing those resources (you, your skills, finances, & leadership) for the life she and you both want.
• This is pretty much the same for all women.
• For long-term relationships, I find you want it to be stable but don't let it be too stable. For instance, when she asks questions, provide silly or ridiculous answers. There is a good series of fictional novels featuring John Corey by the late Nelson Demille. You want to answer about 30% of her inquiries like John Corey. It keeps the long term relationship fresh.
• Too much stability is boring - ever hear the phrase "You two fight like an old married couple".
• ALL women have abandonment issues, that is why they constantly sh*t test the man. Some are more sensitive than others. Yes, you can play with this attribute to an extent in the short term but long term, not so much.
• If natural instincts shift to other men then you are not doing your job leading in the relationship. If you pick a quality woman you can keep her indefinitely. But you cannot fail many sh*t test. Most women cheat when the guy is having trouble with finances or career. The guy thinks it is not a big deal only to find out he is wrong. Women hate "Losers", eg losers of money, resources,
• What I think you are not understanding is that women WANT to be with men who remind them of their father. Their father NEVER bent over backwards for them nor should you. I wrote a great post years ago on this topic, you should be able to find it in the search.
• You might benefit from reading some of my other posts/responses too.

Have you ever noticed that a woman’s desire for you was intense at the beginning of a relationship, but faded over time, especially after marriage or kids?
This raises the question: how do women experience desire? Also: Is it the same for all women or only some?




Often, a woman’s desire is strongest when she fears losing the man, her provider, or when he’s distant, when she feels threatened by other women. In these cases, she may try harder to keep him, and desire him sexually, driven by fear.
But when a man is stable, caring, and responsible (doing chores, being kind), desire, then sex, may become more of a logical "reward," so driven by prescription.


For an instance, we know that women with abandonment issues could exaggerate their FOMO. So this might happened to you:
When the man tries to end the relationship, she may suddenly become extremely sexual, trying to win him back with intense desire. She will start stalking him everywhere and telling him how his **** should scratch the back of her throat and pound her ass all night long. It’s like cutting off her air.


After the honeymoon phase, women often shift into “prescribed desire” for their partner, while natural instincts can shift toward other men. (This also confirmed with high SMV men, just give a look at VIP's relationships).

But, if the relationship is toxic, trauma bonding can keep the desire alive, sometimes for decades, because She is still in that fase, driven by fear.

But what about healthy relationships?
We don't know, but what we know, is that healthy man, make the best of their life, have good careers, friendships, but are not desired long term by their women, who will actually for for the "next thing" as soon as it will be presented to them

 

[BaronOfHair]

Have you ever noticed that a woman’s desire for you was intense at the beginning of a relationship, but faded over time, especially after marriage or kids?

This is pretty self-explanatory, J:

After pushing out 2.5 pups, The Ol' Hooha is more battered than New Orleans, 5 minutes post-Katrina. Expecting a woman's desire for you after such an event to be especially pronounced is more irrational than providing Al Quaeda with a free fleet of Boeings, then feigning surprise when we wrap up the week with fewer skysrapers, and a sudden spike in mortality

 

[zekko]

Seems your overall question is to how to keep a woman long-term without her cheating. It can be done.

First thing is you need the right woman for that.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Get off the internet and go out on the real world and experience it for yourself.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Get off the internet and go out on the real world and experience it for yourself.

He'd have to leave his country.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Have you ever noticed that a woman’s desire for you was intense at the beginning of a relationship, but faded over time, especially after marriage or kids?
This raises the question: how do women experience desire? Also: Is it the same for all women or only some?


Often, a woman’s desire is strongest when she fears losing the man, her provider, or when he’s distant, when she feels threatened by other women. In these cases, she may try harder to keep him, and desire him sexually, driven by fear.
But when a man is stable, caring, and responsible (doing chores, being kind), desire, then sex, may become more of a logical "reward," so driven by prescription.


For an instance, we know that women with abandonment issues could exaggerate their FOMO. So this might happened to you:
When the man tries to end the relationship, she may suddenly become extremely sexual, trying to win him back with intense desire. She will start stalking him everywhere and telling him how his **** should scratch the back of her throat and pound her ass all night long. It’s like cutting off her air.


After the honeymoon phase, women often shift into “prescribed desire” for their partner, while natural instincts can shift toward other men. (This also confirmed with high SMV men, just give a look at VIP's relationships).

But, if the relationship is toxic, trauma bonding can keep the desire alive, sometimes for decades, because She is still in that fase, driven by fear.

But what about healthy relationships?
We don't know, but what we know, is that healthy man, make the best of their life, have good careers, friendships, but are not desired long term by their women, who will actually for for the "next thing" as soon as it will be presented to them

What you are looking for from a woman is primary respect, not love.

Women are not looking for their big love, they are looking for the best man they can lock down and then convince themselves they love him. Women can perfectly talk themselves into loving someone.

If they respect you and are afraid of the consequences of their actions, they wont cheat and instead make sure your needs are met.

What you want to do is stay the best (looks, money, status) she thinks she can get.
Apply dread-game, let her know you have options and are not affraid of walking away at any point.

Thats how you keep women.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Women do not generally desire men in simply sexual terms , most attractive women understand from a young age they can get sex pretty much on a whim so it holds little value to them compared to males who usually have to work pretty hard to get it

You ask a man what he finds attractive and he's going to list of a ton of physical / sexual attributes

You ask a woman what she finds attractive and usually it will be " funny , charming , charismatic ,intelligent"

I believe most women deeply and inherent desire to be "picked" over other women it is why they are so obsessed with fashion and beauty - granted this is a generalisation but in all of my experience the fastest way I've found to get a woman really hot for you is to give her competition or at least the idea of competition from other women

A common female fetish is too sleep with a married man ( I.E stealing another woman's desire )

Another is threesomes and Orgys where she can almost compete in the moment

Its why women will thrown poon out to male celebrities and influencers in the blink of an eye because they understand that even just by being in bed with one of these males it elevates them above other women

 

[plumber]

men wanting to be desired is emotional. it leaves you vulnerable to manipulation and blinds you to reality. the feeling of being desired will block and override your good sense and flag checking. surprise she can manufacture that feeling in you, it does not have to be real on her part. Or it is real, and she looses that emotion as it relates to you. emotions come and go....

Leaves you in a bad spot if you crave being desired. Another way to say it is being needy.

But alas... how to control that. It happens automatically for most men. In fact, lots of mesosphere ideas suggest you must feel her desire. Its a trap...

 

[jhonny9546]

• For long-term relationships, I find you want it to be stable but don't let it be too stable. For instance, when she asks questions, provide silly or ridiculous answers. There is a good series of fictional novels featuring John Corey by the late Nelson Demille. You want to answer about 30% of her inquiries like John Corey. It keeps the long term relationship fresh.
• Too much stability is boring - ever hear the phrase "You two fight like an old married couple".

Ok this can vary depending on the culture, but I'm not totally clear on this point.

"You two fight like an old married couple" just sounds like a couple of kids in a relationship that feeds toxic cycles, and I'm not talking about the joke time together, but that you do it right when she asks you questions and you answer her like John Corey.

A lot of women here get pissed off and then come back, but that's not really the drama you want in a healthy relationship.

Make this clear, I really care, and while I have living proof of LTRs of friends who are argumentative, I don't consider them an example just because the saying You two fight like an old married couple exists

Most women cheat when the guy is having trouble with finances or career

I agree with many of your other points, and in my experience it's also because the man lets himself go physically

 

[jhonny9546]

Thats how you keep women.

I read your entire post, and it makes sense, I am also of the perspective that that type of behavior brings and keeps women, but does not create a connection with them, because you are not genuine in using your dreadlock tricks.

If they respect you and are afraid of the consequences of their actions, they wont cheat and instead make sure your needs are met.

If there is a type of fear that we do not apply at a manipulative level, it is the passive dread that I consider excellent.
But it comes from the inner game of a man and nothing else.

Also, there are many women who are afraid of men and respect them because they would get angry or pissed off to show that he is the leader and that he knows how to make decisions.
You do not want a woman like that, but a woman who when you get angry and disrespect her, lets you know and notice it.

Experience hurts. The more you know, the more you strategize, but it cannot lead us to have unhealthy relationships.

Women are not looking for their big love, they are looking for the best man they can lock down and then convince themselves they love him. Women can perfectly talk themselves into loving someone.

Nothing more true!
The women who had crushes on me, it was because they were convincing themselves to love me, not because they had feelings for me.
Also Women can perfectly talk themselves into loving someone, actually makes me think to my sister relationship that took flight and became stronger after his second child was born.
It could be that she could no longer convince herself that she loved my brother-in-law, but since the child was born, then she convinced herself to work for it, and that, generated love.