"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How Women Act Post Breakup

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I was a total d1ck to a girl about a month ago and ignored her for a week (in response to her silent treatment) and she broke up with me.

Month has passed and I had to retreive some property at her place. She seemed really dejected and couldn't really make eye contact with me when I went over there.

I'm not scheming to get this crazy girl back but I was wondering what this generally meant. Is she sad about the times past? Is attraction gone?

Keep in mind I haven't said a single word to her since breakup except when she texted me a little in which I blew her off for other things.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It all depends and from the little information you've given, I doubt anyone has a correct answer for you.

If she broke up with you and hasn't made contact, then she is obviously on the road to her own recovery. She may still have feelings, but she'll force herself to bury them until they are gone.

Who knows, maybe a month is all it took to lose those feelings. How long were you with her? Was it a healthy relationship? How was your sexual life?

These are all questions that can give you a hint to where she is going with this.

On the other hand, if you're not thinking about getting back with this crazy girl why are you asking
 

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It was an incredibly unhealthy relationship. **** test after **** test made me the biggest jerkoff of all time. Ignoring each other for 3 days, 1 day of intense sex, 2 days ignore, 1 day of intense sex, etc.

In the end she gave me the silent treatment and I returned back with silent treatment of my own until she cut the cord (maybe seeing if i would come back?). Earlier in the relationship she cut the cord on me, then came back. Then 2 weeks later I cut the cord on her, then came back 2 days later.

I have been absolutely stubborn the whole time which has both helped me and hurt me. She might be consciously trying to cut herself from me but maybe she'll be too week and start up again...who knows.

Thoughts?
 

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Ha, a little afraid to commit? It's good to keep a relationship on it's toes from time to time, but when it's an all out **** show, it's bound to go down the pipes.

Just be glad you've moved on from an unhealthy relationship like this one. Whether it was her fault or yours, only you truly know that. Learn from your mistakes and move on
 

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There could be a million reasons why she acted like she did, and over half of them don't involve you...
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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who wants to make eye contact with someone that treated them like crap?
dude, her feelings are hurt.
however, she isn't taking it out on you , putting her hurt feelings in your face.
she is keeping it to herself, telling herself that you made your choices in how to act and she made hers. she made the best choice she could and is standing behind it, ladylike.
 

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Everytime I was around her after the breakup (for business reasons only), she got really nervous and fidgety. Tried as hard as she could to act as if nothing was happening but almost hilarious from a third party standpoint.

We BOTH were ****ing ridiculous. I NEVER gave into her games but the side effect was that I was VERY cold and/or a jerkoff most of the time until it came time to release sexual tension again. We have to see each other for another 2 years at least 1-2 times a week for business reasons.

Is the ball totally in her court to come back? Or is it up to me if I want to "salvage" this since I think she is def. still attracted to me but consciously **** blocking herself since she is telling herself that I'm an *******.
 

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mb121 said:
Everytime I was around her after the breakup (for business reasons only), she got really nervous and fidgety. Tried as hard as she could to act as if nothing was happening but almost hilarious from a third party standpoint.

We BOTH were ****ing ridiculous. I NEVER gave into her games but the side effect was that I was VERY cold and/or a jerkoff most of the time until it came time to release sexual tension again. We have to see each other for another 2 years at least 1-2 times a week for business reasons.

Is the ball totally in her court to come back? Or is it up to me if I want to "salvage" this since I think she is def. still attracted to me but consciously **** blocking herself since she is telling herself that I'm an *******.
I'd definitely say the ball is in your court. The question is, how badly do you want to return it? If it's not 100%, then it's not worth it.
 
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