"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I was a total d1ck to a girl about a month ago and ignored her for a week (in response to her silent treatment) and she broke up with me.

Month has passed and I had to retreive some property at her place. She seemed really dejected and couldn't really make eye contact with me when I went over there.

I'm not scheming to get this crazy girl back but I was wondering what this generally meant. Is she sad about the times past? Is attraction gone?

Keep in mind I haven't said a single word to her since breakup except when she texted me a little in which I blew her off for other things.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It all depends and from the little information you've given, I doubt anyone has a correct answer for you.

If she broke up with you and hasn't made contact, then she is obviously on the road to her own recovery. She may still have feelings, but she'll force herself to bury them until they are gone.

Who knows, maybe a month is all it took to lose those feelings. How long were you with her? Was it a healthy relationship? How was your sexual life?

These are all questions that can give you a hint to where she is going with this.

On the other hand, if you're not thinking about getting back with this crazy girl why are you asking
 
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It was an incredibly unhealthy relationship. **** test after **** test made me the biggest jerkoff of all time. Ignoring each other for 3 days, 1 day of intense sex, 2 days ignore, 1 day of intense sex, etc.

In the end she gave me the silent treatment and I returned back with silent treatment of my own until she cut the cord (maybe seeing if i would come back?). Earlier in the relationship she cut the cord on me, then came back. Then 2 weeks later I cut the cord on her, then came back 2 days later.

I have been absolutely stubborn the whole time which has both helped me and hurt me. She might be consciously trying to cut herself from me but maybe she'll be too week and start up again...who knows.

Thoughts?
 
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Ha, a little afraid to commit? It's good to keep a relationship on it's toes from time to time, but when it's an all out **** show, it's bound to go down the pipes.

Just be glad you've moved on from an unhealthy relationship like this one. Whether it was her fault or yours, only you truly know that. Learn from your mistakes and move on
 
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There could be a million reasons why she acted like she did, and over half of them don't involve you...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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who wants to make eye contact with someone that treated them like crap?
dude, her feelings are hurt.
however, she isn't taking it out on you , putting her hurt feelings in your face.
she is keeping it to herself, telling herself that you made your choices in how to act and she made hers. she made the best choice she could and is standing behind it, ladylike.
 
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Everytime I was around her after the breakup (for business reasons only), she got really nervous and fidgety. Tried as hard as she could to act as if nothing was happening but almost hilarious from a third party standpoint.

We BOTH were ****ing ridiculous. I NEVER gave into her games but the side effect was that I was VERY cold and/or a jerkoff most of the time until it came time to release sexual tension again. We have to see each other for another 2 years at least 1-2 times a week for business reasons.

Is the ball totally in her court to come back? Or is it up to me if I want to "salvage" this since I think she is def. still attracted to me but consciously **** blocking herself since she is telling herself that I'm an *******.
 
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Everytime I was around her after the breakup (for business reasons only), she got really nervous and fidgety. Tried as hard as she could to act as if nothing was happening but almost hilarious from a third party standpoint.

We BOTH were ****ing ridiculous. I NEVER gave into her games but the side effect was that I was VERY cold and/or a jerkoff most of the time until it came time to release sexual tension again. We have to see each other for another 2 years at least 1-2 times a week for business reasons.

Is the ball totally in her court to come back? Or is it up to me if I want to "salvage" this since I think she is def. still attracted to me but consciously **** blocking herself since she is telling herself that I'm an *******.
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I'd definitely say the ball is in your court. The question is, how badly do you want to return it? If it's not 100%, then it's not worth it.
 
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