"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How Women Act Post Breakup

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I was a total d1ck to a girl about a month ago and ignored her for a week (in response to her silent treatment) and she broke up with me.

Month has passed and I had to retreive some property at her place. She seemed really dejected and couldn't really make eye contact with me when I went over there.

I'm not scheming to get this crazy girl back but I was wondering what this generally meant. Is she sad about the times past? Is attraction gone?

Keep in mind I haven't said a single word to her since breakup except when she texted me a little in which I blew her off for other things.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It all depends and from the little information you've given, I doubt anyone has a correct answer for you.

If she broke up with you and hasn't made contact, then she is obviously on the road to her own recovery. She may still have feelings, but she'll force herself to bury them until they are gone.

Who knows, maybe a month is all it took to lose those feelings. How long were you with her? Was it a healthy relationship? How was your sexual life?

These are all questions that can give you a hint to where she is going with this.

On the other hand, if you're not thinking about getting back with this crazy girl why are you asking
 
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It was an incredibly unhealthy relationship. **** test after **** test made me the biggest jerkoff of all time. Ignoring each other for 3 days, 1 day of intense sex, 2 days ignore, 1 day of intense sex, etc.

In the end she gave me the silent treatment and I returned back with silent treatment of my own until she cut the cord (maybe seeing if i would come back?). Earlier in the relationship she cut the cord on me, then came back. Then 2 weeks later I cut the cord on her, then came back 2 days later.

I have been absolutely stubborn the whole time which has both helped me and hurt me. She might be consciously trying to cut herself from me but maybe she'll be too week and start up again...who knows.

Thoughts?
 
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Ha, a little afraid to commit? It's good to keep a relationship on it's toes from time to time, but when it's an all out **** show, it's bound to go down the pipes.

Just be glad you've moved on from an unhealthy relationship like this one. Whether it was her fault or yours, only you truly know that. Learn from your mistakes and move on
 
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There could be a million reasons why she acted like she did, and over half of them don't involve you...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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who wants to make eye contact with someone that treated them like crap?
dude, her feelings are hurt.
however, she isn't taking it out on you , putting her hurt feelings in your face.
she is keeping it to herself, telling herself that you made your choices in how to act and she made hers. she made the best choice she could and is standing behind it, ladylike.
 
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Everytime I was around her after the breakup (for business reasons only), she got really nervous and fidgety. Tried as hard as she could to act as if nothing was happening but almost hilarious from a third party standpoint.

We BOTH were ****ing ridiculous. I NEVER gave into her games but the side effect was that I was VERY cold and/or a jerkoff most of the time until it came time to release sexual tension again. We have to see each other for another 2 years at least 1-2 times a week for business reasons.

Is the ball totally in her court to come back? Or is it up to me if I want to "salvage" this since I think she is def. still attracted to me but consciously **** blocking herself since she is telling herself that I'm an *******.
 
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mb121 said:
Everytime I was around her after the breakup (for business reasons only), she got really nervous and fidgety. Tried as hard as she could to act as if nothing was happening but almost hilarious from a third party standpoint.

We BOTH were ****ing ridiculous. I NEVER gave into her games but the side effect was that I was VERY cold and/or a jerkoff most of the time until it came time to release sexual tension again. We have to see each other for another 2 years at least 1-2 times a week for business reasons.

Is the ball totally in her court to come back? Or is it up to me if I want to "salvage" this since I think she is def. still attracted to me but consciously **** blocking herself since she is telling herself that I'm an *******.
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I'd definitely say the ball is in your court. The question is, how badly do you want to return it? If it's not 100%, then it's not worth it.
 
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