"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to you deal with stuck-up people

crossboss

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I live a by a prestigious University and where people only care about themselves. People don't seem to care about me. People drive by sometimes with their head up in the air.

How do you react to someone sticking their nose up in the air?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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HariPoter13

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Move on like they dont even exist. Or you could alternatively say hello. See, some people act like this because they are too self-conscious.

Give them a friendly warm smile, greet them and they will thank you for the recognition you gave them. Assuming they are not the hardcore egoistics that are truly full of themselves.
 

Plinco

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Get yourself a good relationship with reality, then make that a strong relationship, and then act independently.
 

runner83

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News flash buddy...welcome to reality.

Everyone is focused on their own lives, and no one is going to come and save you from yours.

Live your life to the full on your terms.

Think of other people not caring as an advantage: you can do whatever you want. YEE-HAH!
 

Cinamon

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Like Hari says, a smile always helps. I dont think I have ever had someone not respond to a smile, it can brighten up someones day.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jariel

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Many of my ex girlfriends appeared stuck up and cold with me before we got together. I figured they didn't like me, but I eventually found out it was just a defence because they liked me a lot.

It's difficult to tell until you break the ice, but you may find they're not as stuck up as you think.
 
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