"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to use a PIVOT?

Impact

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Ok, I've been LJBF not just once lately, and I still think I can get those girls if I play my cards right. The next step would be going out with them (just as friends) and having them help me get other girls (using them as pivots). This way they might get jelous, and if I throw some KINO and C&F in, I think I can get them to be sexually interested in me.
So what I don't know is how do I actually use a girl to get other girls! Any ideas?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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AudiTy

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One way is just open sets as normal but having the girl on your arm will do a host of beneficial things psychologically. First there's evident pre-selection, also the target won't initially see you as a threat, and neither will the guys in the set.

When it comes to time to extract the target, you can merge your pivot into the set and if your pivot wants to try and set her up with one of the guys by suggesting they look good together before you extract. Find out who your pivot wants to target before you approach.

You: Ya'know you 2 look good together, (to pivots target) can you look after *pivots name* while I talk to your friend over on the couch?

Just an idea of course, come up with your own ways to integrate your pivot into the set (if she agrees).

-AudiTy =o
 

Tomatoes

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Impact said:
Ok, I've been LJBF not just once lately, and I still think I can get those girls if I play my cards right. The next step would be going out with them (just as friends) and having them help me get other girls (using them as pivots). This way they might get jelous, and if I throw some KINO and C&F in, I think I can get them to be sexually interested in me.
So what I don't know is how do I actually use a girl to get other girls! Any ideas?

The one problem is that if you use them as a PIVOT you may just embed them deeping into your friendzone.



Sarge On!
 

Desdinova

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I never "went out" with my female friends to pick up other women. What I would do is go to a bar, make LOTS of female "friends", and then pick the one(s) that I wanted to date. If a woman is interested in you, she'll keep an eye on you and who you interact with. Getting kissed by women is another fantastic way to make other women attracted to you. In a sense, I made ALL women in the bar "pivots" (more commonly known on sosuave as social proof) and used it to my advantage.

Another way this can work is if a date isn't going well, take your date to a place where you're well known and the social proof itself will increase her IL.
 
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