"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to turn this girl down politely?

SteR

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About a year ago my buddy introduced me to a girl he knew that'd just split up with her bf. I made out with her in the club that evening but didn't expect to take things further. My buddy put a little pressure on me to take her out so I reluctantly agreed.

We went out for drinks a week or so later and although it was kinda fun, I didn't really feel like there was any spark.. I got the impression she wasn't that keen.

I left it there, expecting it to be over with, but she texted me back a few days later saying she wanted to meet up again. So I called her up and arranged another date.

The day of the date comes round and I get a text sent to me by mistake from this girl (what an idiot) basically saying that she was supposed to be going out with me that evening but couldn't be bothered. I felt so disrespected that I just texted her back saying right, the date's off. She of course sent a flurry of texts saying it was a mistake blah blah, she didn't mean it, wasn't ready to see new guys blah blah. I just texted her back saying well you should've said something earlier and left it at that.

Fast forward a few months and she starts texting me out the blue again, asking me how I am yada yada. I knew she realised there wasn't anyone out there better than me (no brag ;) ) and was trying to get me to take her out again. I basically ignored her messages or just replied very evasively.

Anyway fast forward another few months and she's doing the same thing. Except this time she's flat out asked me whether she can take me out to dinner and I don't know how I can dodge this one?

Realistically I know I don't want anything to do with this woman. I don't really have any desire to see her.. and I'm not the kinda guy to just have sex with her for the sake of it.. so how do I respond given the circumstances?

Any suggestions?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"I'm seeing someone right now". It seems to work for women, why don't you try it for us men.
 

SteR

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Falcon25 said:
"I'm seeing someone right now". It seems to work for women, why don't you try it for us men.
Just tried that ^ :). Problem is I really hate lying but I can't think of any other way I can let someone down without making them feel **** :(

Thanks Falc
 
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I was in your position I would have taken her up on her offer to go out to eat and then after a few days, I'd have informed her of my lacking interest by saying that "I'm just not that into you".
 

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perseverance said:
I was in your position I would have taken her up on her offer to go out to eat and then after a few days, I'd have informed her of my lacking interest by saying that "I'm just not that into you".
I try to treat people as I'd like to be treated :cool:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SteR said:
I try to treat people as I'd like to be treated :cool:
Yeah, so do I, but there are certain circumstances where a change of stance is required.

You aren't doing anything wrong by allowing this girl to take you out for dinner. You owe her nothing, seeing as she is taking you on her own accord and it's just a dinner date.

At least by letting her take you out and you declaring "I'm just not that into you", it appears to her that you have given her a chance.
 

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Seriously, just LJBF her. I mean, is it so hard to put your foot down here? She disrespected you a year ago by being a moron.

If you REALLY want to go the a-hole route, one that's definitely low-road.

Set up a date with her.
Then the same day "accidentally" send her a text saying:

"Yeah, I'm supposed to have a date with Moron-Girl, but I just can't be bothered..."
 

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Kailex said:
Seriously, just LJBF her. I mean, is it so hard to put your foot down here? She disrespected you a year ago by being a moron.

If you REALLY want to go the a-hole route, one that's definitely low-road.

Set up a date with her.
Then the same day "accidentally" send her a text saying:

"Yeah, I'm supposed to have a date with Moron-Girl, but I just can't be bothered..."
You have a real mean streak in you, Kailex ....:cheer:
 

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Kailex said:
Seriously, just LJBF her. I mean, is it so hard to put your foot down here? She disrespected you a year ago by being a moron.

If you REALLY want to go the a-hole route, one that's definitely low-road.

Set up a date with her.
Then the same day "accidentally" send her a text saying:

"Yeah, I'm supposed to have a date with Moron-Girl, but I just can't be bothered..."
haha, didn't even think of that
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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