IBreatheSpears
Senior Don Juan
How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bro it's not your job to make your relationship progress. It's her job. Just keep having sex with her, let her figure out what it means.How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
if she wants to move in or says I love you or talks about marriage/wanting a ring, hints at wanting more commitment, etc.How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
'Testing' someone is reactive and usually something reserved for the insecure person in a relationship. You have to become better at gauging commitment based on her day-to-day interactions with you. Does she empathize with you? Does she make time for you? Do you have a good rapport? Etc.How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why are you discussing your relationship with women? The only time you bring up relationship concerns is when she brings it up.Try this:
"Do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?"
Her possible answers:
1) "No!!!!" means no
2) (anything else) means yes
As beta as it gets.Try this:
"Do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?"
Her possible answers:
1) "No!!!!" means no
2) (anything else) means yes
This is well known knowledge in the seduction community. I didn't write this. I'm not that good. El PassGasso on the other hand is obviously that bad.As beta as it gets.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Try this:
"Do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?"
Her possible answers:
1) "No!!!!" means no
2) (anything else) means yes
Yeah wtf, that seems like the dumbest idea ever, not to mention that "anything else" doesn't necessarily mean she wants to end it.As beta as it gets.
i don't think his post was seriousYeah wtf, that seems like the dumbest idea ever, not to mention that "anything else" doesn't necessarily mean she wants to end it.
I bet most women would answer "wtf why do you even bring this up?" when you ask them "do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?" and your value with her will drop INSTANTLY.
First, I didn't invent this method. Second, this is not a joke. A woman either wants to end it, or will do anything to avoid ending it. All you do is ask them and you know where you stand. But many of you need to get a second date before you learn what women are like in relationships.Yeah wtf, that seems like the dumbest idea ever, not to mention that "anything else" doesn't necessarily mean she wants to end it.
I bet most women would answer "wtf why do you even bring this up?" when you ask them "do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?" and your value with her will drop INSTANTLY.
This is great... LOVE makes a way.Judge her by her actions and not by her words. If her actions are good, what more do you want? And if her actions are crappy, will her words really make a difference? Exactly. Her words are meaningless.
WHEN LOVE IS PRESENT, WORDS ARE UNNECESSARY.
WHEN WORDS ARE NECESSARY, LOVE ISN'T PRESENT.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Can a babe be "acting cool" and not showing too much excitement or affection to you, and underneath that viel really like you?Bottom line her actions.
All you really want to know is "how does she treat me?"
Excited to see you? Touchy and affectionate? Always sexually responsive? Cooks for you? Laughs at your jokes? Listens and throws the ball back attentively during conversations? Plans things to do? Mentions you a lot in her conversations?
All you need to be concerned about is how she treats you.
So if you trained her by being responsive and giving a bunch of positive attention while she "acts cool", and you realize it's not emotionally balanced. All we can do is pull away, cut contact, blow them off a few times, dig into our passions more and hope they start to pursue us?@mrgoodstuff
Sure, at the begging stages yes. But as it progresses you'd expect her to thaw out and start putting effort into trying to stay a part of your life. An interested good/intelligent woman will want to please her man and not risk losing him. Of course that is based on you being a man worthy of being treated well too (hint: your own self esteem and self respect)
Interest level is all degrees anyway. To what degree is she treating you well usually is a good indicator to where her interest level is.
The op talks about commitmemt, so I assume he's not at the beggining stages...
If she stays cold and aloof, that's not how a King expects his woman to behave.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.