IBreatheSpears
Senior Don Juan
How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to test a girl's commitment level
- Thread starter IBreatheSpears
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
Isn't it something that you can just sense by how she acts around you?
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Bro it's not your job to make your relationship progress. It's her job. Just keep having sex with her, let her figure out what it means.
Your job is to be the best person you can be for yourself and society.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
if she wants to move in or says I love you or talks about marriage/wanting a ring, hints at wanting more commitment, etc.
and i guess also by how she treats other guys. if she still talks to 3 of her exes she's not at all committed, if she asks for permission to speak to the pizza guy, she's very committed
'Testing' someone is reactive and usually something reserved for the insecure person in a relationship. You have to become better at gauging commitment based on her day-to-day interactions with you. Does she empathize with you? Does she make time for you? Do you have a good rapport? Etc.
Fundamentally, the fact that you are trying to test her instead of knowing whether the two of you are compatible is a red flag and you would probably be well-suited to read the DJ Bible some more for overall insights.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
EyeBRollin
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Why are you discussing your relationship with women? The only time you bring up relationship concerns is when she brings it up.
El Payaso
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As beta as it gets.
This is well known knowledge in the seduction community. I didn't write this. I'm not that good. El PassGasso on the other hand is obviously that bad.
Good luck in 2017 for you guys to get some pvssy finally.
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Just pull back....a little. Not too much all of a sudden. Maybe for the next few days answer half of her calls and wait just a little longer than normal to respond to her texts. Don't overdue it and make it a complete shakeup.
If very committed she will sense it and be concerned and draw closer.
If very committed she will sense it and be concerned and draw closer.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mr. Kalikoat
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Yeah wtf, that seems like the dumbest idea ever, not to mention that "anything else" doesn't necessarily mean she wants to end it.
I bet most women would answer "wtf why do you even bring this up?" when you ask them "do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?" and your value with her will drop INSTANTLY.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
i don't think his post was serious
IBreatheSpears
Senior Don Juan
I just want to know because I'm curious. I'm confident she loves me and doesn't want to lose me. She cooks for me, gives me spontaneous *******s, bought me a cool christmas present, and waited outside my house in the cold when we had an argument and I stormed off.
First, I didn't invent this method. Second, this is not a joke. A woman either wants to end it, or will do anything to avoid ending it. All you do is ask them and you know where you stand. But many of you need to get a second date before you learn what women are like in relationships.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
This is great... LOVE makes a way.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bottom line her actions.
All you really want to know is "how does she treat me?"
Excited to see you? Touchy and affectionate? Always sexually responsive? Cooks for you? Laughs at your jokes? Listens and throws the ball back attentively during conversations? Plans things to do? Mentions you a lot in her conversations?
All you need to be concerned about is how she treats you.
All you really want to know is "how does she treat me?"
Excited to see you? Touchy and affectionate? Always sexually responsive? Cooks for you? Laughs at your jokes? Listens and throws the ball back attentively during conversations? Plans things to do? Mentions you a lot in her conversations?
All you need to be concerned about is how she treats you.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Can a babe be "acting cool" and not showing too much excitement or affection to you, and underneath that viel really like you?
Roober
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It is all in the actions! Don't look at what she says to you. Look at whether or not she makes time for you. You just have to feel it. If your gut says something is wrong, it may be time to back off a bit.
People will tell you who they are, you just have to listen!
People will tell you who they are, you just have to listen!
@mrgoodstuff
Sure, at the beggining stages yes. But as it progresses you'd expect her to thaw out and start putting effort into trying to stay a part of your life. An interested good/intelligent woman will want to please her man and not risk losing him. Of course that is based on you being a man worthy of being treated well too (hint: your own self esteem and self respect)
Interest level is all degrees anyway. To what degree is she treating you well usually is a good indicator to where her interest level is.
The op talks about commitmemt, so I assume he's not at the beggining stages...
If she stays cold and aloof, that's not how a King expects his woman to behave.
Sure, at the beggining stages yes. But as it progresses you'd expect her to thaw out and start putting effort into trying to stay a part of your life. An interested good/intelligent woman will want to please her man and not risk losing him. Of course that is based on you being a man worthy of being treated well too (hint: your own self esteem and self respect)
Interest level is all degrees anyway. To what degree is she treating you well usually is a good indicator to where her interest level is.
The op talks about commitmemt, so I assume he's not at the beggining stages...
If she stays cold and aloof, that's not how a King expects his woman to behave.
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mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
So if you trained her by being responsive and giving a bunch of positive attention while she "acts cool", and you realize it's not emotionally balanced. All we can do is pull away, cut contact, blow them off a few times, dig into our passions more and hope they start to pursue us?
If they don't pursue you have to drop it...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.