"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to test a girl's commitment level

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How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
Bro it's not your job to make your relationship progress. It's her job. Just keep having sex with her, let her figure out what it means.

Your job is to be the best person you can be for yourself and society. o_O
 

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How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
if she wants to move in or says I love you or talks about marriage/wanting a ring, hints at wanting more commitment, etc.

and i guess also by how she treats other guys. if she still talks to 3 of her exes she's not at all committed, if she asks for permission to speak to the pizza guy, she's very committed
 

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How do you test how in-love a girl is, or how committed to you she feels? I want to know if my gf is trying to make the relationship progress.
'Testing' someone is reactive and usually something reserved for the insecure person in a relationship. You have to become better at gauging commitment based on her day-to-day interactions with you. Does she empathize with you? Does she make time for you? Do you have a good rapport? Etc.

Fundamentally, the fact that you are trying to test her instead of knowing whether the two of you are compatible is a red flag and you would probably be well-suited to read the DJ Bible some more for overall insights.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Try this:

"Do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?"

Her possible answers:

1) "No!!!!" means no
2) (anything else) means yes
 

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As beta as it gets.
This is well known knowledge in the seduction community. I didn't write this. I'm not that good. El PassGasso on the other hand is obviously that bad.

Good luck in 2017 for you guys to get some pvssy finally.
 

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Just pull back....a little. Not too much all of a sudden. Maybe for the next few days answer half of her calls and wait just a little longer than normal to respond to her texts. Don't overdue it and make it a complete shakeup.

If very committed she will sense it and be concerned and draw closer.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Try this:

"Do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?"

Her possible answers:

1) "No!!!!" means no
2) (anything else) means yes
As beta as it gets.
Yeah wtf, that seems like the dumbest idea ever, not to mention that "anything else" doesn't necessarily mean she wants to end it.

I bet most women would answer "wtf why do you even bring this up?" when you ask them "do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?" and your value with her will drop INSTANTLY.
 

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Yeah wtf, that seems like the dumbest idea ever, not to mention that "anything else" doesn't necessarily mean she wants to end it.

I bet most women would answer "wtf why do you even bring this up?" when you ask them "do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?" and your value with her will drop INSTANTLY.
i don't think his post was serious
 

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I just want to know because I'm curious. I'm confident she loves me and doesn't want to lose me. She cooks for me, gives me spontaneous *******s, bought me a cool christmas present, and waited outside my house in the cold when we had an argument and I stormed off.
 

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Yeah wtf, that seems like the dumbest idea ever, not to mention that "anything else" doesn't necessarily mean she wants to end it.

I bet most women would answer "wtf why do you even bring this up?" when you ask them "do you think it might be time for us to end the relationship?" and your value with her will drop INSTANTLY.
First, I didn't invent this method. Second, this is not a joke. A woman either wants to end it, or will do anything to avoid ending it. All you do is ask them and you know where you stand. But many of you need to get a second date before you learn what women are like in relationships.
 

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Judge her by her actions and not by her words. If her actions are good, what more do you want? And if her actions are crappy, will her words really make a difference? Exactly. Her words are meaningless.

WHEN LOVE IS PRESENT, WORDS ARE UNNECESSARY.

WHEN WORDS ARE NECESSARY, LOVE ISN'T PRESENT.
This is great... LOVE makes a way.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bottom line her actions.

All you really want to know is "how does she treat me?"

Excited to see you? Touchy and affectionate? Always sexually responsive? Cooks for you? Laughs at your jokes? Listens and throws the ball back attentively during conversations? Plans things to do? Mentions you a lot in her conversations?

All you need to be concerned about is how she treats you.
 

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Bottom line her actions.

All you really want to know is "how does she treat me?"

Excited to see you? Touchy and affectionate? Always sexually responsive? Cooks for you? Laughs at your jokes? Listens and throws the ball back attentively during conversations? Plans things to do? Mentions you a lot in her conversations?

All you need to be concerned about is how she treats you.
Can a babe be "acting cool" and not showing too much excitement or affection to you, and underneath that viel really like you?
 

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It is all in the actions! Don't look at what she says to you. Look at whether or not she makes time for you. You just have to feel it. If your gut says something is wrong, it may be time to back off a bit.

People will tell you who they are, you just have to listen!
 

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@mrgoodstuff

Sure, at the beggining stages yes. But as it progresses you'd expect her to thaw out and start putting effort into trying to stay a part of your life. An interested good/intelligent woman will want to please her man and not risk losing him. Of course that is based on you being a man worthy of being treated well too (hint: your own self esteem and self respect)

Interest level is all degrees anyway. To what degree is she treating you well usually is a good indicator to where her interest level is.

The op talks about commitmemt, so I assume he's not at the beggining stages...

If she stays cold and aloof, that's not how a King expects his woman to behave.
 
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@mrgoodstuff

Sure, at the begging stages yes. But as it progresses you'd expect her to thaw out and start putting effort into trying to stay a part of your life. An interested good/intelligent woman will want to please her man and not risk losing him. Of course that is based on you being a man worthy of being treated well too (hint: your own self esteem and self respect)

Interest level is all degrees anyway. To what degree is she treating you well usually is a good indicator to where her interest level is.

The op talks about commitmemt, so I assume he's not at the beggining stages...

If she stays cold and aloof, that's not how a King expects his woman to behave.
So if you trained her by being responsive and giving a bunch of positive attention while she "acts cool", and you realize it's not emotionally balanced. All we can do is pull away, cut contact, blow them off a few times, dig into our passions more and hope they start to pursue us?

If they don't pursue you have to drop it...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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