"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to telll if a cashier likes you?

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Hi,

I'm just wondering how you can tell if a cashier likes you?

I'm finding it extremely difficult, because I keep on thinking "it must be part of her job."

There's this cashier at a store in my University that is always smiling at me, when she hands me my change she makes some hand contact, and whenever I look up we hold eye contact for a few moments.

That's it... are those good signs? If they are, how should I proceed? Like I said, it could just be her job... but service people aren't usually that enjoyable around here anyways.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AAAgent

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a girl will not like you if the only interaction you have with her is giving her money. (haha sounded weird)

If she is holding eye contact she may be interested. try talking to her.

small talk. how long you been here for...blah blah, how do you like it...blah blah.

Well my name is Overjoy, it was nice to meet you (pause and wait for her to say her name).

It was nice to meet you HB. have a great day.

Walk away and show up next time and ask her out. or you could ask her out on the spot as well.
 

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The PUAs and dating gurus get this question a thousand times a month "How do I know if a girl is interested in me?"

The whole point of teaching Pickup is to avoid this question. Here's the answer: IT DOESN'T FRIKKING MATTER if she's interested!
YOUR JOB is to run some game on her, and MAKE her be interested.
 

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bluenorther said:
The PUAs and dating gurus get this question a thousand times a month "How do I know if a girl is interested in me?"

The whole point of teaching Pickup is to avoid this question. Here's the answer: IT DOESN'T FRIKKING MATTER if she's interested!
YOUR JOB is to run some game on her, and MAKE her be interested.
Yep. You gotta go out with the intent to build her interest in you, and be prepared for the let down if she says no.

Women are weird creatures. You can't base your game around reading their signals.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hand her two pennies after she gives you your money back and say: "Keep the change you filthy animal". If she laughs. Talk to her. If not. Walk away smiling.
 

Warrior74

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Open your mouth and talk to her?

There is a beautiful Bangladeshi girl who works at the gas station near my job, her face lights up when I come in. We've had several conversations and I know she likes me, but....she's muslim and her family would not approve, and by not approve I mean probably honor kill us both. She said that she isn't even suppose to talk to the men who come in the store and only talks to me when her uncle isn't around. Hows that for knowing if a chic likes you? She basically risks everything to hold conversations with me.

So open your mouth and talk.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
Hand her two pennies after she gives you your money back and say: "Keep the change you filthy animal". If she laughs. Talk to her. If not. Walk away smiling.
Boy you watch too much home alone! But there's no definitive way to tell if a cashier likes you. Most are hired guns and are good at being attention wh0res. Actually, the best way to tell is to read her mind. If you can't do that, then you'll just have to flirt and run game and hope she reciprocates well.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
Hand her two pennies after she gives you your money back and say: "Keep the change you filthy animal". If she laughs. Talk to her. If not. Walk away smiling.
If she's never seen Home Alone 2 then she may not get it and to answers the OP's question: Who gives a **** if she doesnt "like you"? Just go for it and if you get rejected oh well, shes probably not that hot anyway.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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