"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to telll if a cashier likes you?

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Hi,

I'm just wondering how you can tell if a cashier likes you?

I'm finding it extremely difficult, because I keep on thinking "it must be part of her job."

There's this cashier at a store in my University that is always smiling at me, when she hands me my change she makes some hand contact, and whenever I look up we hold eye contact for a few moments.

That's it... are those good signs? If they are, how should I proceed? Like I said, it could just be her job... but service people aren't usually that enjoyable around here anyways.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AAAgent

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a girl will not like you if the only interaction you have with her is giving her money. (haha sounded weird)

If she is holding eye contact she may be interested. try talking to her.

small talk. how long you been here for...blah blah, how do you like it...blah blah.

Well my name is Overjoy, it was nice to meet you (pause and wait for her to say her name).

It was nice to meet you HB. have a great day.

Walk away and show up next time and ask her out. or you could ask her out on the spot as well.
 

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The PUAs and dating gurus get this question a thousand times a month "How do I know if a girl is interested in me?"

The whole point of teaching Pickup is to avoid this question. Here's the answer: IT DOESN'T FRIKKING MATTER if she's interested!
YOUR JOB is to run some game on her, and MAKE her be interested.
 

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bluenorther said:
The PUAs and dating gurus get this question a thousand times a month "How do I know if a girl is interested in me?"

The whole point of teaching Pickup is to avoid this question. Here's the answer: IT DOESN'T FRIKKING MATTER if she's interested!
YOUR JOB is to run some game on her, and MAKE her be interested.
Yep. You gotta go out with the intent to build her interest in you, and be prepared for the let down if she says no.

Women are weird creatures. You can't base your game around reading their signals.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hand her two pennies after she gives you your money back and say: "Keep the change you filthy animal". If she laughs. Talk to her. If not. Walk away smiling.
 

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Open your mouth and talk to her?

There is a beautiful Bangladeshi girl who works at the gas station near my job, her face lights up when I come in. We've had several conversations and I know she likes me, but....she's muslim and her family would not approve, and by not approve I mean probably honor kill us both. She said that she isn't even suppose to talk to the men who come in the store and only talks to me when her uncle isn't around. Hows that for knowing if a chic likes you? She basically risks everything to hold conversations with me.

So open your mouth and talk.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
Hand her two pennies after she gives you your money back and say: "Keep the change you filthy animal". If she laughs. Talk to her. If not. Walk away smiling.
Boy you watch too much home alone! But there's no definitive way to tell if a cashier likes you. Most are hired guns and are good at being attention wh0res. Actually, the best way to tell is to read her mind. If you can't do that, then you'll just have to flirt and run game and hope she reciprocates well.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
Hand her two pennies after she gives you your money back and say: "Keep the change you filthy animal". If she laughs. Talk to her. If not. Walk away smiling.
If she's never seen Home Alone 2 then she may not get it and to answers the OP's question: Who gives a **** if she doesnt "like you"? Just go for it and if you get rejected oh well, shes probably not that hot anyway.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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