"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How to tell if your wife/girlfriend is cheating you
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What can you guys comment about that ?
good_man said:3 years ago, she used to repeat the name of her boss too often when we were together. Then one day I saw his name written by her inside her underpants. When I asked her, she told me it was just I kind of whitch so he could be a better boss to her in the job and that she had never had sexual relation with him.
What can you guys comment about that ?
I dont like the sound of this at all tbh, sorry man but i dont think anyone would be happy with that.
Thing is ask yourself these questions:
Why would she write about your boss name in her knickers?
The answer she 'wants him to be a better boss'? wtf answer is that it means nothing! thats not an answer its a cop out, you need todrill it more.
Ask her again!
Ever heard the saying, i want him to get in my knickers?
I know your thinking the same thing.
I would calm down relax and confront her again.
Say something like, i want to talk to you about your boss, i want you to be honest with me and dont lie, is there anything going on, when she says no, bring up the pants again, ask her why she wrote that, when she says for him to be a better boss, ask her to explain what she means cos you cant understan the connection between his name in her pants.
The important thing is to try to be cool, relaxed and not freak out, try to be cool calm and judgemental, your emotions can screw this up, so try to put them on the back burner.
Think:
'hey some-thing is not right here, its not going to upset me, i can handle anything she says and picture the worst case and get it out of your system away from her, then when she comes back to false stuff or skits around the subject your will be more prepared mentally and be able to approcah it with a more critical eye.
It does not mean she is screwing him, but it is very dodgy ground, this is not normal behaviour, you need to drill her and find out, but not get angry ok.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Open your eyes! You literally SAW it. Don't even TRY to tell us you believed that "whitch" bullshyt...good_man said:Then one day I saw his name written by her inside her underpants.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
foomee
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you're gonna find out sooner or later, and you're gonna be hurt.
move on. if you feel she cheated on you, than most likely she has. next her. sorry.