She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I thought that fingering is second base. If not, can someone please clarify the bases?joekerr31 said:you dont ask. you slide your hand in her pants and start fingering her.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
if she lets you fingerbang her im sure she'll be ok with you penisbang her also.big_jeffry said:so you're saying if she lets me finger her, she will more than likely let me bang her
base 1 - kissing~attrACTION~ said:I thought that fingering is second base. If not, can someone please clarify the bases?
joekerr31 said:base 1 - kissing
base 2 - feeling her up (boobs)
base 3 - everything but penetration
home run - sex
grand slam - she sucks your wang after you've been in her OR she asks you to blow your load on her face.
but then again, im in my 30s, the bases might have changed with the younger crowd.