"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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how to talk to a woman in a group?

picard

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How do I talk to a woman when she is with 2 more female friends at the party? Should I talk in someway to separate her from the others ? should I talk to all 3 of them then focus slowly on 1 person so the others get the body language cues to leave the area. I encounter this problem often but don't know what to do.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I would either wait until she is alone, which does'nt always happen, or approach the entire group with her as the focus point. With the latter, you will find out quickly if it is a situation condusive to pick up. Or you could just go up to her and ask her to dance ( assuming that there is dancing at this place). It is more important just to do it ( approach) than to worry about how to. It is really not up to you whether you get accepetd or rejected, but it is your responsibility to make the approach.
 

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I'm pretty sure there's posts about this in the DJ Bible, so check that out.

The one thing I've noticed is, if you focus on 1 girl and its obvious you're only interested in her, you're shooting yourself in the foot. The other girls will find a way to c0ckblock you.
 

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Originally posted by bobbob
I'm pretty sure there's posts about this in the DJ Bible, so check that out.

The one thing I've noticed is, if you focus on 1 girl and its obvious you're only interested in her, you're shooting yourself in the foot. The other girls will find a way to c0ckblock you.

I did check the DJ bible. There is no mentioned how to talk to a woman while she is in female group. :(
 

Broham

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I'm very interested in some tactics too, especially in recurring daily encounters where groups of girls are found, i.e. the mall.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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its not only the piggys who c-block, but good lookin friends, avg looking friends, fuglies. and the pigs...

I think it is easier to chat with a pair of girls. I did last night, but we were in a situation where we were all forced together by circumstance, and all had a similar problem.......
 

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Entertain and talk to all of them. If you try to single one of them out, some how it always fails (girls don't help each other out). So if it's possible to build rapport with the group first then approach the one you're interested in ("hey how do you know those other friends? are you close? etc).
 
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