"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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how to talk to a woman in a group?

picard

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How do I talk to a woman when she is with 2 more female friends at the party? Should I talk in someway to separate her from the others ? should I talk to all 3 of them then focus slowly on 1 person so the others get the body language cues to leave the area. I encounter this problem often but don't know what to do.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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cinephile

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I would either wait until she is alone, which does'nt always happen, or approach the entire group with her as the focus point. With the latter, you will find out quickly if it is a situation condusive to pick up. Or you could just go up to her and ask her to dance ( assuming that there is dancing at this place). It is more important just to do it ( approach) than to worry about how to. It is really not up to you whether you get accepetd or rejected, but it is your responsibility to make the approach.
 

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I'm pretty sure there's posts about this in the DJ Bible, so check that out.

The one thing I've noticed is, if you focus on 1 girl and its obvious you're only interested in her, you're shooting yourself in the foot. The other girls will find a way to c0ckblock you.
 

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Originally posted by bobbob
I'm pretty sure there's posts about this in the DJ Bible, so check that out.

The one thing I've noticed is, if you focus on 1 girl and its obvious you're only interested in her, you're shooting yourself in the foot. The other girls will find a way to c0ckblock you.

I did check the DJ bible. There is no mentioned how to talk to a woman while she is in female group. :(
 

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I'm very interested in some tactics too, especially in recurring daily encounters where groups of girls are found, i.e. the mall.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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its not only the piggys who c-block, but good lookin friends, avg looking friends, fuglies. and the pigs...

I think it is easier to chat with a pair of girls. I did last night, but we were in a situation where we were all forced together by circumstance, and all had a similar problem.......
 

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Entertain and talk to all of them. If you try to single one of them out, some how it always fails (girls don't help each other out). So if it's possible to build rapport with the group first then approach the one you're interested in ("hey how do you know those other friends? are you close? etc).
 
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