"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to take back our power?

What to do with a "tease" or attention W*res?

  • Ignore her completely

    Votes: 6 66.7%
  • Be friends and ask her to help us so we can be more attractive

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Be really "harsh" and show her that with DJs no one plays with!

    Votes: 3 33.3%

  • Total voters
    9

Phonenix DJ

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Dear Djs.

As everybody here I was an AFc. After reading some posts,DYD material, and doc's love material I developed my game!

I started to be really confident, CF, I was saying beaultiful things and so forth!

So there was a girl that was attracted to be by "my game", my personality and maybe by my image also!
But the problem is that she had a boyfriend for 4 years and wouldnt leave him for me!

Another main problem is that I fell in love and said some "childish" things... We study togheter and now, we are "friends" ( Im really not interested anymore)


MY IMAGE WAS BROKEN!

Once she said ("teasing" me):

I was childish!

Because of my goatee beard I was looking like a man!

She called me "baby boy"

etc!


Im really lost. THe problem is that this girl is very pop and has a huge influence on other people, so she may be a "menace" to me!

How can I restore my past image? ( Im feeling really demotivated, and without solutions! )

How to take back our power?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Wonderbread166

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umm... You're feeling depressed because some girl (that you say you're not interested in) called you childish? Come on, you've got to be above this. She's going to use her influence and tell everyone that you're childish? Is that all she's got? You really didn't say what it was that you said, but it really isn't important. You can't let your image be dependent on some biotch.

You want the power? Well, you could start by assuming the position. She teases you, tease her back. Don't take her shyt, and she'll respect you for it. From the small amount of information you said about her behavior towards you, it sounds to me like she's at least a little interested. You're way paranoid about a tiny, tiny thing that she said that doesn't mean a damn thing.

WB
 

Phonenix DJ

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Good reply

You said:

"You want the power? Well, you could start by assuming the position. She teases you, tease her back. Don't take her shyt, and she'll respect you for it."

Yeah! Youre right!

By the way, this girl seem to be a real tease! She has a BF, thats why I dont believe she has any interest in me!

Its not easy but im gonna try to stand up for myself!
Any more suggestions, Ill appreciate!

Phonenix (from TX)
 

biker_gixxer

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Originally posted by Wonderbread166
umm... You're feeling depressed because some girl (that you say you're not interested in) called you childish? Come on, you've got to be above this. She's going to use her influence and tell everyone that you're childish? Is that all she's got? You really didn't say what it was that you said, but it really isn't important. You can't let your image be dependent on some biotch.

You want the power? Well, you could start by assuming the position. She teases you, tease her back. Don't take her shyt, and she'll respect you for it. From the small amount of information you said about her behavior towards you, it sounds to me like she's at least a little interested. You're way paranoid about a tiny, tiny thing that she said that doesn't mean a damn thing.

WB
I agree with wonderbread.
 

DJ Alejandro

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my personal opinion is that i think you may be a little paranoid here. stop worrying too much.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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