"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to stop shaking

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A nerd friend of mine pointed me to this site a little bit ago. I've had girl troubles all my life and thought that it was hopeless for me.

Well, all that's over. Now I'm a recovering AFC. I started reading stuff from the DJ Bible, and let me tell you, its great.

Today, I decided I'd put some of it into action. Was sitting at school, working on my laptop. A girl sat down near me, I initiated conversation, shortly after, I asked for her number. It worked, and I got it. I was almost sure I would be rejected, and when I wasn't it caught me off guard.

I started shaking pretty nervously. She noticed, asked me why I was shaking. Told her residual side effects from the coffee. It was all cool, but the whole time I'm sitting here talking to her, I'm trying not to shake. I know its just that I was freaking nervous because I expected a rejection.

So here's my question:
What can be done about shaking? Is this just something that will get better over time?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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thats hilarious!

just get used to talking to people thats all really. or bring a cup of coffee everywhere you go and use that as your excuse.
 
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Shaking, and all other nervous jerks are from you being uncomfortable in your own skin, in your environment, and surroundings, and circumstances. Such as the unexpected anxiety of getting her number.


Be comfortable with yourself.


Develop confidence in yourself. That will fix it for good.


Body building. When you work out, that takes plenty of stress off. Better body gives you confidence as well.


Go for another number close with a different chick. Be compfortable while doing that. You won't shake again.
 
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MrMike said:
...So here's my question:
What can be done about shaking? Is this just something that will get better over time?
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Be prepared not to be rejected 100% of the time.
 
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Keep on talking to women. After a few months you'll be completely desensitized and you won't shake anymore. Keep progressing and take the next step. Go on dates, etc. There is medication for this but it's totally not needed. Once you get used to interacting with women you'll be fine.

Kudos,
Matt
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lol thats funny . but take a pain relaxing pill lourtabs lol this way ur body will be in a differnt state of mind that way you dont give a F***K what she says u say everything will go smoothly
 
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the only shaking any guy should be doing around a girl is shaking the last drips of *** off his **** after he busts all over her azz
 
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I'll get over it. Just need to get out more and strut my stuff.

Randallpink83 said:


Scarlett: "Is that why you're shaking like that?"

Topher: "Yes. I believe it is"
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That totally made my evening. You rock.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You're Viper, right?

Sounds like you're making progress, good stuff.
 
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I'm definitely not some guy named Viper. I'm just Mike.
 
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