MusicLover10
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at 35 I had only been with 4 women when I broke off an LTR 2 months ago and have really put work into applying "game" and am having some results.
Last week I finally got laid with a solid 8 who after giving me the cheek on my first 2 attempts to kiss her, turned into a raging nympho on the 3rd date. We had a LOT of sex but it was clear she wanted more at the end of the night and she also wanted me to be rough with her, which I did. I smacked her ass and thighs with tremendous force and she loved it and other rough play.
It was fun and I want to keep this going with her but already see beta tendencies creeping in mentally and I find myself worried about "messing this up" and feel anxious about it.
What I want is to see her once a week or so, do something fun, then have sex. I do not want a relationship and want to keep spinning plates and I am pretty damn sure this is actually what this girl wants too.
I just have never had a sexual relationship with a woman that was not trying to make me her "soul-mate" what do I do? how do I behave? Being "myself" is not going to work because I am so hard wired to be a good husband (was married for 6 years) or boyfriend. Looking for general advice but here are a few specifics
1) Do I kiss her when I see her now? I am going to a party with her in a few nights and I am not sure how to act
2) I want to bring sex toys into our next interaction. I enjoy using them on woman and she is so damn horny based on our first encounter I know she will love it. But is this a bad move in any way?
3) We text a little, but nothing major. Do I flirt with her in text, and use text to amp up sexual tension between us? Or just text to set up our next date and be physically aggressive then.
4) Who the fuc* is this girl? I am trying to "figure her out" - she works for the world bank and is very smart and after 2 dates of no kissing she wanted me to choke her while having sex and I smacked her across the face and she loved it. I want to just enjoy it without analyzing it but its hard, how do I just have fun?
I am glad I found this forum, after a lifetime of being an AFC I really want to change but its damn hard. thanks for your input.
Last week I finally got laid with a solid 8 who after giving me the cheek on my first 2 attempts to kiss her, turned into a raging nympho on the 3rd date. We had a LOT of sex but it was clear she wanted more at the end of the night and she also wanted me to be rough with her, which I did. I smacked her ass and thighs with tremendous force and she loved it and other rough play.
It was fun and I want to keep this going with her but already see beta tendencies creeping in mentally and I find myself worried about "messing this up" and feel anxious about it.
What I want is to see her once a week or so, do something fun, then have sex. I do not want a relationship and want to keep spinning plates and I am pretty damn sure this is actually what this girl wants too.
I just have never had a sexual relationship with a woman that was not trying to make me her "soul-mate" what do I do? how do I behave? Being "myself" is not going to work because I am so hard wired to be a good husband (was married for 6 years) or boyfriend. Looking for general advice but here are a few specifics
1) Do I kiss her when I see her now? I am going to a party with her in a few nights and I am not sure how to act
2) I want to bring sex toys into our next interaction. I enjoy using them on woman and she is so damn horny based on our first encounter I know she will love it. But is this a bad move in any way?
3) We text a little, but nothing major. Do I flirt with her in text, and use text to amp up sexual tension between us? Or just text to set up our next date and be physically aggressive then.
4) Who the fuc* is this girl? I am trying to "figure her out" - she works for the world bank and is very smart and after 2 dates of no kissing she wanted me to choke her while having sex and I smacked her across the face and she loved it. I want to just enjoy it without analyzing it but its hard, how do I just have fun?
I am glad I found this forum, after a lifetime of being an AFC I really want to change but its damn hard. thanks for your input.