I didn't understand what you meant by this at all. I came up with one of your older posts though. This one: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/female-validation.270336/post-2862292 .Confidence does have to be not earned. You project it. You don't plan to change and improve yourself. You do it now. You project it.
You wrote, someone who does an activity can only expect to receive the goal of the activity itself, but nothing more. If you expect more, this is something you want to externally push your self-esteem with.
In several tips floating around here and on YouTube, you'll hear something like:
Do martial arts in order to become more [manly, aggressive, alive, present, ..........].
For me this already seemed like a flawed advice, and I was never able to stick to an activity I started for such a reason.
And your post seems to underline this. And the bolded quote is making sense now as well.
"Improving" through an activity itself is deeply flawed and is mostly boosting external self esteem. I have great troubles to break away from this kind of thinking.
It would result in me doing only things I want to do because of the result itself or how I expect it would make me feel (joyful, energized, ...).
I'm not sure what you mean with "confidence". Self-trust needs to be proven by yourself by plan-action-reward patterns and by avoiding to make up excuses.
The feeling of confidence, i.e. the feeling of an anticipated action probably having a positive outcome, is the other meaning of confidence. Do you have a tip on this one?