"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to smile less in everyday life?

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I smile a lot when talking with people and I like to laugh a lot and end up saying witty creative things generally in conversation with people. I don't do this to "people please", I just like to have my fun this way. I can do decent with my social circle game just being myself at the moment, but I could be more masculine and start getting with hotter and more exotic women, especially in cold approach. I've always struggled with being the most masculine guy.
So, how would I start smiling less in order to put that into my system without overthinking and being self conscious?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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foreverAFC

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just be yourself and be comfortable, if you want to be more masculine hit the gym and buy yourself a nice flannel jacket
 
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Why in the BLUE HELL would you want to smile less?
 
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I wouldn't say that smiling less means you are more masculine. It may make you seem more serious which can indirectly make you seem more masculine, but surely that serious image would contradict your fun social persona, which you have been using and tailoring for years o make yourself unique.

Plus smiling is seen as an attractive trait. Girls like guys who smile, guys like girls who smile. It's the most universally recognised body sign for a reason, it means the same thing to everyone.

Being fun and smiling all the time doesn't mean you aren't masculine. It may make you seem less serious, but is that really a bad thing?

Gunner
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Kailex said:
Why in the BLUE HELL would you want to smile less?
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Seriously, everyone loves a warm inviting smile. Smiling releases endorphins to make you and the people around the happy. Why the hell would you not want that?
 
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I have this same problem. Girls don't respond that well to a guy who smiles too often. Flashing a smile here and there is great, when you can't stop, not so much.

It just takes practice and effort. You have to remind yourself to not smile.
 
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Smiling is fine if that's the way a guy naturally is. I know a smiley guy who always has like a HB7.5 gf.

The ONLY time you might possibly tone down the smiling is for a ONS. IME most ONS' are not between the super smiley funny guy and friendly giggly girl. It is usually a serious or neutral (like Stagger Lee says) acting guy AND a cold, business-like almost pissed off appearing female*.

*This is not to be confused with a b@tch shield. B@tch shield => little or no interest. Cold/businesslike DTF => high interest.
 
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Oh holy crap... seriously?

If you have to constantly remind yourself to be "serious" and not smile... you guys are analyzing all of this way too much.

If you think women don't respond to men who smile "too much"... trust me, it's not the over-bearing smile that might be problem.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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