Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to respond to this?

gsintx

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Matched with this girl on hinge and long story short I could tell she’s one of those feminazis that expect the man to still do everything :

*has invited you to chat*
Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: hey
Her: you already said hi
Me: I said hey not hi
Her: hey and hi are essentially the same thing and you are being boring
Me: I thought this was the 21st century and you fully capable of taking charge?
Her: it’s not about taking charge , it just shows you’re lazy.
Me: the irony is astonishing

How should I have responded ? Just thought I should share
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Your "hey" is completely unnecessary and pointless, your follow up is worse by being reactive about nothing instead of just ignore and take the conversation somewhere. Make it fun and light hearted. You may have saved yourself time but still, the more important message here is to not be this boring. You're not standing out from all the hordes of men by writing "hi, hey" and taking things so seriously.
I screen girls immediately by showing them my sense of humour (which can be quite sarcastic) and if we're on the same wavelength she'll respond in a favourable way, if not then well i saved myself some time.
Lead, screen and get to where you want to go.
 

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Well, you were boring.

However her disrespect was worse.

Just be glad you found out early.

I have never used Hinge, instead of "hey" you could have said " Here we are at the awkward part haha. Tell me abit about yourself"
Absolutely , and she wasn’t good looking to begin with. The hypergamy is real. How would you have responded to that?
 

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You might be the worst messager I have seen and that is saying something.

Don't ever message"Hi." If you can't figure out how to say something interesting maybe don't bother messaging her until you can? All you are doing is making yourself look like the other 95% of guys sending lame messages like that...probably not where you want to be.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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On bumble girls do that all the time. Honestly I wasn’t trying to get at her, just thought the hypergamy was funny

You might be the worst messager I have seen and that is saying something.

Don't ever message"Hi." If you can't figure out how to say something interesting maybe don't bother messaging her until you can? All you are doing is making yourself look like the other 95% of guys sending lame messages like that...probably not where you want to be.
 

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Seems like you're a kid in a whre house, everything around you with tits is interesting, but you have no idea what to do. You have to provke emotions. Both hi and hay is unnecessary. Wanna skip the week of chatting before a date and go straight to the part where we do shots, become best friends and make everyone jealous of us..?
 

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On bumble girls do that all the time. Honestly I wasn’t trying to get at her, just thought the hypergamy was funny
That doesn't mean that you should. I mean she came out and told you you were being boring.

Are you trying to get laid or win a fight that you started?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Matched with this girl on hinge and long story short I could tell she’s one of those feminazis that expect the man to still do everything :

*has invited you to chat*
Me: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: hey
Her: you already said hi
Me: I said hey not hi
Her: hey and hi are essentially the same thing and you are being boring
Me: I thought this was the 21st century and you fully capable of taking charge?
Her: it’s not about taking charge , it just shows you’re lazy.
Me: the irony is astonishing

How should I have responded ? Just thought I should share
"You invited me. Learn some social skills before you interact with people. It will help."

Then ignore her from now on.
 
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