"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to respond to girl in situations where she 'qualifies' herself to you

icantgetlaid

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e.g. when you are negging her "your ass is small" and she responds with "i'll work on that in the gym"

what is the dj response in this situation?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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e.g. when you are negging her "your ass is small" and she responds with "i'll work on that in the gym"

what is the dj response in this situation?
Nothing. Just move on with the convo. I don't even pull that negging **** unless the girl is feisty enough.. You do that enoguh to a sweet girl she'll think you're an *******

That's the problem with certain so called pick up artists/don juan.. They think every girl is the same. It's the fckin complete opposite. As far as body language and cues, most attractive womena re the same, yes.. But personality wise, no.
 

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If the girl is qualifying herself - just let her. No need to OD on the C&F
This. Good advice. When a woman is bragging about herself to you it's a good sign and you should take this as "game on'. Ask her out on the spot, her interest level is good.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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this is a plate im already spinning .. so its past figuring out whether she likes me or not .. or whether she'll go on a date or not ..

basically im trying to figure out a cool/smooth response when a girl takes a criticism seriously and says something like "i'll fix it .." "i'll learn how to cook" ... "I'll dress better" etc.

my instinct is to tell her "im just playing" ... but i know that isn't a smooth response.

om1xr response was kind of what i was looking for ... how do i play it cool after she promises to change something about herself for my approval.
 
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this is a plate im already spinning .. so its past figuring out whether she likes me or not .. or whether she'll go on a date or not ..

basically im trying to figure out a cool/smooth response when a girl takes a criticism seriously and says something like "i'll fix it .." "i'll learn how to cook" ... "I'll dress better" etc.

my instinct is to tell her "im just playing" ... but i know that isn't a smooth response.

om1xr response was kind of what i was looking for ... how do i play it cool after she promises to change something about herself for my approval.
you: "your ass is small" (though ireally hope you dont say it that direct and emotionless)
her: "ill work on that in the gym"
you: "or you can keep the miley cyrus.. some guys are into that "
 

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Girl: *insert qualifying statement*
Old_skoolr: That's nice.
 
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