"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to respond to girl in situations where she 'qualifies' herself to you

icantgetlaid

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e.g. when you are negging her "your ass is small" and she responds with "i'll work on that in the gym"

what is the dj response in this situation?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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e.g. when you are negging her "your ass is small" and she responds with "i'll work on that in the gym"

what is the dj response in this situation?
Nothing. Just move on with the convo. I don't even pull that negging **** unless the girl is feisty enough.. You do that enoguh to a sweet girl she'll think you're an *******

That's the problem with certain so called pick up artists/don juan.. They think every girl is the same. It's the fckin complete opposite. As far as body language and cues, most attractive womena re the same, yes.. But personality wise, no.
 

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If the girl is qualifying herself - just let her. No need to OD on the C&F
This. Good advice. When a woman is bragging about herself to you it's a good sign and you should take this as "game on'. Ask her out on the spot, her interest level is good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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icantgetlaid

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this is a plate im already spinning .. so its past figuring out whether she likes me or not .. or whether she'll go on a date or not ..

basically im trying to figure out a cool/smooth response when a girl takes a criticism seriously and says something like "i'll fix it .." "i'll learn how to cook" ... "I'll dress better" etc.

my instinct is to tell her "im just playing" ... but i know that isn't a smooth response.

om1xr response was kind of what i was looking for ... how do i play it cool after she promises to change something about herself for my approval.
 
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this is a plate im already spinning .. so its past figuring out whether she likes me or not .. or whether she'll go on a date or not ..

basically im trying to figure out a cool/smooth response when a girl takes a criticism seriously and says something like "i'll fix it .." "i'll learn how to cook" ... "I'll dress better" etc.

my instinct is to tell her "im just playing" ... but i know that isn't a smooth response.

om1xr response was kind of what i was looking for ... how do i play it cool after she promises to change something about herself for my approval.
you: "your ass is small" (though ireally hope you dont say it that direct and emotionless)
her: "ill work on that in the gym"
you: "or you can keep the miley cyrus.. some guys are into that "
 

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Girl: *insert qualifying statement*
Old_skoolr: That's nice.
 
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