"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to respond(or not) to "I'll think about it;)".

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Got a girl's number through another girl, texted her for a small bit then hit her up with the date/meetup plans. Her response was "I'll think about it;)". Does it even warrant a response or should I say "don't waste my time"? Thinking of just not replying for now and seeing what happens.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Got a girl's number through another girl, texted her for a small bit then hit her up with the date/meetup plans. Her response was "I'll think about it;)". Does it even warrant a response or should I say "don't waste my time"? Thinking of just not replying for now and seeing what happens.
"No problem. I'll make other plans, get back to me when you figure it out."
 

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"Let me know now otherwise i'll make other plans" or marmel75 answer.

I'll think about it the weakling way of saying: No

After that she forgot you even existed
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Ok. Let me know when you are interested."

Of course, you will go ahead and make other plans. But, you don't need to say that to her, because, to some women, it may come across as being cokky and arrogant, or you are butthurt.

You are a cool guy and nothing fazes you, right? Indifference.
 

Vivacity

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Kick the ball into her court and let her decide what to do with it.

She can:
(1) leave the ball there.
(2) play with it herself.
(3) kick the ball back to you.

At the end of the day, you want your time and effort you spent on to materialize. You leave the "game" aside, and as a last gesture, you clearly state to her what you want her to do. You are fine with whatever she decides. You respect her decision, and more importantly, you respect yourself. Get on with your life. When she hits up, depending on what your status is at that point of time, you will take it from there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been here too. I find thaf older ladies need you to buikd a littlecrapport before being asked out. So I'll chit chat with them over the phone or via text before I ask for a date.

When they respond with "I'll think about it" or "I'll let you know" I'll say "that's not good enough. It's either a yes or no. It doesn't matter to me either way, I'm just not interested in sitting around waiting on you to decide".

At this point if they haven't picked up on the fact that I can be a bit of an ******* they now know for sure and they come back with a "YES".
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Got a girl's number through another girl, texted her for a small bit then hit her up with the date/meetup plans. Her response was "I'll think about it;)". Does it even warrant a response or should I say "don't waste my time"? Thinking of just not replying for now and seeing what happens.
This calls for a negative sale. Your best play is to withdraw the offer to see what she does. The negative sale forces her to make a decision.

"<name>, I'm quite busy. I only make definite plans. If you can't commit to meeting up on <date> we will have do something another time."


She'll either give a short answer "ok" (low interest), or she'll go ahead and make a decision / counter offer (interest). Either way, this allows you to retain the power to try again at a later date without appearing butthurt.

Don't "move on." This woman is close-able, but will take some time and game. A lot of the advice on here is ill-advised and will lead to missed lays.
 

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This calls for a negative sale. Your best play is to withdraw the offer to see what she does. The negative sale forces her to make a decision.

"<name>, I'm quite busy. I only make definite plans. If you can't commit to meeting up on <date> we will have do something another time."


She'll either give a short answer "ok" (low interest), or she'll go ahead and make a decision / counter offer (interest). Either way, this allows you to retain the power to try again at a later date without appearing butthurt.

Don't "move on." This woman is close-able, but will take some time and game. A lot of the advice on here is ill-advised and will lead to missed lays.
Exactly. A lot of the other responses given are brutal. You should answer her as if you have another date set up on the same day with another girl.

If you guys let it go, it's weak. If you guys say let me know when have time, it's weak. If you guys leave it open when she can back to you, it's weak. Pretend you have something to do the SAME DAY, and then answer her. You are not dealing with business people, you are dealing with an emotional girl who needs her ego fed so you can have sex with her.
 

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Got a girl's number through another girl, texted her for a small bit then hit her up with the date/meetup plans. Her response was "I'll think about it;)". Does it even warrant a response or should I say "don't waste my time"? Thinking of just not replying for now and seeing what happens.
What worked for me was saying , "I don't have time for games, it's either yes or no"
 

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Got a girl's number through another girl, texted her for a small bit then hit her up with the date/meetup plans. Her response was "I'll think about it;)". Does it even warrant a response or should I say "don't waste my time"? Thinking of just not replying for now and seeing what happens.
Use humour. Say something like "don't take too long train leaves the station soon."

It shows you take things light and fun. It shows you aren't butt hurt. Shows you aren't desperate for her attention, and if she never gets back to you then it also shows you don't care.

If she has any interest she will get back to you. If she doesn't. Next. No loss
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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