Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to reply to this txt

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Made plans with this chick for Saturday night how to reply to this...

Me: Forgot to mention the having really good sex part too ha x

Her: Oh so you think it wasn't just a 1 off the other night then?! He he x
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It really doesnt matter what we tell you. The level of neediness, desperation, and insecurity you are showing and the pedestal you have this girl on can be smelled a mile away by her. That text was lame AF bro.

Clever text responses will do nothing to solve these serious issues which will be your downfall with her sooner rather than later if they remain uncorrected. Start dating other women and keep her in the rotation. Do not stop pursuing other women.

That being said as a response I'd say "I dont think anything...I'm just hoping you aren't going to turn into a stalker now after that..."
 
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So you sex closed this girl then made another date that she accepted yet you still text something thirsty like that ? big mistake. Next time when a girl accepts just stay mysterious/distant until date night.
 

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You're doing far too much heavy texting and getting too attached way too fast from what I've read in these threads.

You did well to have sex with her after all that teasing, IMO you should tease her back now, not be begging for sex off her while letting her withhold it from you. You want to be getting her asking you for sex, not the other way round. Or at least be on an even footing, minimum.

Asking her what amounts basically to "is this a relationship yet?" and "Can I please have sex with you again, please?" is not going to make her interested at all, she's just going to turn you into a little puppy yapping at her ankles.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've not asked her to be in a relationship, the idea from that txt was to let her know I'm expecting sex from her and not beat arojnd the bush about it. i didnt put if you want i almost demanded it from her. Then i was not going to mention it to her again or do anything physical with her sat night. i.e. make her think what is going on
 

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How about not unless you want to be just friends
I already told you what to text but do what you want.

Send that text you want to send...see how that works out for you. My bet is not very well.
 

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Best text is NO text friend.
The phone is the most dangerous tool in a relationship.
 

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Best text is NO text friend.
The phone is the most dangerous tool in a relationship.
Only if you dont know what you are doing...otherwise it can work wonders for you.
 

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No game and he can’t be helped.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Only if you dont know what you are doing...otherwise it can work wonders for you.
I prefer to disappear and let them wonder, i find it works better for me, to each their own i suppose.
 

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I prefer to disappear and let them wonder, i find it works better for me, to each their own i suppose.
I've found it leads to a high probability of flaking and/or nexting early on in the relationship.

I'm not advocating to blow up her phone 24/7 but I have found keeping in contact with a text or two over the course of a day usually works in your favor far more often than it works against you in the beginning.
 

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Made plans with this chick for Saturday night how to reply to this...

Me: Forgot to mention the having really good sex part too ha x

Her: Oh so you think it wasn't just a 1 off the other night then?! He he x
Stop texting so much. You answer with this then FULL STOP until the date.

Her: Oh so you think it wasn't just a 1 off the other night then?! He he x

You- "wear that sexy red ****tale dress you have."

Nothing more.
 

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I've found it leads to a high probability of flaking and/or nexting early on in the relationship.

I'm not advocating to blow up her phone 24/7 but I have found keeping in contact with a text or two over the course of a day usually works in your favor far more often than it works against you in the beginning.
I don't know. I've had numerous girls tell me they chose me simply because i disappeared and they kept wondering about me.
Besides, if you're dealing with a pretty girl, you're just gonna one of the 273 guys that sent her messages that day.
 

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I don't know. I've had numerous girls tell me they chose me simply because i disappeared and they kept wondering about me.
Besides, if you're dealing with a pretty girl, you're just gonna one of the 273 guys that sent her messages that day.
The key is the content not the frequency
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The key is the content not the frequency
We'll have to agree to disagree.
In my experience: You back off, she misses you. You text, you got 50/50 chance of shooting yourself in the foot.
Challenge always wins.
 

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We'll have to agree to disagree.
In my experience: You back off, she misses you. You text, you got 50/50 chance of shooting yourself in the foot.
Challenge always wins.
Agreed. Most girls these days are getting bombarded with messages/notifications on their phone. You want to be the guy she's hoping she gets a text/message from whenever her phone goes off. Best way to do that is with distance. Then rock her world in person and go distant again.
 

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We'll have to agree to disagree.
In my experience: You back off, she misses you. You text, you got 50/50 chance of shooting yourself in the foot.
Challenge always wins.
Maybe this works with 22 year olds but you try that with older women they'll drop you like a bad habit.
 

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Maybe this works with 22 year olds but you try that with older women they'll drop you like a bad habit.
Good. I don't want an impatient, uptight, low self-esteem, lonely girl anyway.
A good confident woman won't drop a gentleman because he isn't texting. I guarantee.
 

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Good. I don't want an impatient, uptight, low self-esteem, lonely girl anyway.
A good confident woman won't drop a gentleman because he isn't texting. I guarantee.
And I'm not interested in women that bring nothing to the table other than their looks, have nothing interesting to talk about and can't take d!ck to save their life. I guess it works out good for both of us :up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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