"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yogy

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hy to all,
so I have this question.How do you remain faithful in a relationship ???
I do love my girl (hb9)/she loves me (we are together for about a year).The sex is phenomenal (1-2 times a day).But my big problem is that I have a lot of temptations all day ( I am a photographer).I have at least 5-6 HB7,8,9 heating on me per day.
I don't want to cheat,but what to do?I know that I just can ignore all the girls, but it's hard.My only solution at this moment is to try threesome's or some swinging stuff,but my girl say that at this point she doesn't feel comfortable with this (she would get jealous seeing me f*cking with other girls).
So what do you think?To insist on the threesome's/swinging (and how) or is there another way to overcome this sexual desire.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There is no way to get rid of the desire, but you can overcome it just by doing what you're doing and not acting on it. In time it won't even be that big of a deal

It may be hard, but in the end it'll be worth it. I'm sure you don't think about any of these women for more than about a day. You seem to put your girl above sex, which is good. Just ask yourself though, what's more important? sex with these other chicks? or a girl that loves you? (with great sex)


I guess if you just can't help your self (i.e. just give up) you could just try your best to convince her to an open relationship

or better yet, just role play
 

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At this point she doesnt feel comfortablesharing you with other people (swinging, threesome) the chances of that happening further down your relationship are even less likely cause she will be more attached to you.

Swinging and threesomes are fun, but i would never do this with a boyfriend, ltr, it would just raise so many trust issues, and i think that goes for a lot of women.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I used to have the same mindset "when in a relationship you should be comitted 100%" and thus didn't use to cheat on my gfs. Only after all is said and done and I look back at the opportunities I let pass me by I realize how naive I was.

Now, I wouldn't go out of my way to actively try to get a girl. But if a hot girl shows some interest in me, even in a subtle way, I ll test the waters. If it happens I just make sure to make it a one time thing, no subsequent contact etc
 
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Remember your moral standards. If you've made a commitment (whatever that commitment is) to stay faithful to another person (whoever that is), you've made your word, and you should be sincere and keep your word. It's what separates shallow souls and real people.
 

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thanks for replys

Remember your moral standards. If you've made a commitment (whatever that commitment is) to stay faithful to another person (whoever that is), you've made your word, and you should be sincere and keep your word. It's what separates shallow souls and real people.
that's verry true with me.if I don't want to be faithful then why bother with LTR? And it's not a relationship without trust.

It may be hard, but in the end it'll be worth it. I'm sure you don't think about any of these women for more than about a day.
i hope so :rockon: ... the thing is that it's my longest exclusiv relationship so I am learning new things every day :whistle:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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