"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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how to remain faithful in LTR

yogy

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hy to all,
so I have this question.How do you remain faithful in a relationship ???
I do love my girl (hb9)/she loves me (we are together for about a year).The sex is phenomenal (1-2 times a day).But my big problem is that I have a lot of temptations all day ( I am a photographer).I have at least 5-6 HB7,8,9 heating on me per day.
I don't want to cheat,but what to do?I know that I just can ignore all the girls, but it's hard.My only solution at this moment is to try threesome's or some swinging stuff,but my girl say that at this point she doesn't feel comfortable with this (she would get jealous seeing me f*cking with other girls).
So what do you think?To insist on the threesome's/swinging (and how) or is there another way to overcome this sexual desire.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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There is no way to get rid of the desire, but you can overcome it just by doing what you're doing and not acting on it. In time it won't even be that big of a deal

It may be hard, but in the end it'll be worth it. I'm sure you don't think about any of these women for more than about a day. You seem to put your girl above sex, which is good. Just ask yourself though, what's more important? sex with these other chicks? or a girl that loves you? (with great sex)


I guess if you just can't help your self (i.e. just give up) you could just try your best to convince her to an open relationship

or better yet, just role play
 

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At this point she doesnt feel comfortablesharing you with other people (swinging, threesome) the chances of that happening further down your relationship are even less likely cause she will be more attached to you.

Swinging and threesomes are fun, but i would never do this with a boyfriend, ltr, it would just raise so many trust issues, and i think that goes for a lot of women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I used to have the same mindset "when in a relationship you should be comitted 100%" and thus didn't use to cheat on my gfs. Only after all is said and done and I look back at the opportunities I let pass me by I realize how naive I was.

Now, I wouldn't go out of my way to actively try to get a girl. But if a hot girl shows some interest in me, even in a subtle way, I ll test the waters. If it happens I just make sure to make it a one time thing, no subsequent contact etc
 
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Remember your moral standards. If you've made a commitment (whatever that commitment is) to stay faithful to another person (whoever that is), you've made your word, and you should be sincere and keep your word. It's what separates shallow souls and real people.
 

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Remember your moral standards. If you've made a commitment (whatever that commitment is) to stay faithful to another person (whoever that is), you've made your word, and you should be sincere and keep your word. It's what separates shallow souls and real people.
that's verry true with me.if I don't want to be faithful then why bother with LTR? And it's not a relationship without trust.

It may be hard, but in the end it'll be worth it. I'm sure you don't think about any of these women for more than about a day.
i hope so :rockon: ... the thing is that it's my longest exclusiv relationship so I am learning new things every day :whistle:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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