"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to proceed/escalate?

Tedhe

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Hey Guys,

Looking for your guidance - recently meet a girl. Definite cutie - I like her vibe. Asked her for her number a couple of weeks ago and got it.

I waited a couple of days to message her as I had plans for the weekend.

Eventually did message her - had a low key good conversation (funny small talk kinda stuff) on Sunday. When the conversation was heating up she mentioned she was heading to a family event to which I said to message me whenever she was free.

She did.

But said she couldn’t talk because she had to study for a test. Said we’d talk soon.

Said no problem and good luck on her test.

Now I’m not sure how to approach. I don’t want to look desperate and iniate conversation again. But I would like to escalate as I would like to continue the pursuit.

Any advice?

Thanks everyone!
T

P.S it’s her bday this Wednesday and she has plans this Saturday. So asking her out this week would be tough.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

djthiago1

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AVOID special dates until in a relationship. (Bdays, easter, Xmas ....)
and
AVOID pointless messaging, set up a date, than another, than another, than other.
 

Tedhe

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I think letting the week play out is best - let her get her fun out for her bday (I don’t want any part of that)

I’ll wish her on Wednesday and reach out next week
 

narcissist

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Just ask her out now

If she is interested she will accept

If she says no, then ask her out next week

Stop stalling to avoid your fear of rejection

The best time to ask is always now
 

Tedhe

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Update.

Not good - Not bad.

Asked her out for this week but she said she was busy for the week and then she asked me if I was around on Saturday. Sadly I cannnot - as I am busy on Saturday - So it looks like the ask was nullified? How should I proceed?

Thanks for all the great advice too folks!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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