"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to proceed/escalate?

Tedhe

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Hey Guys,

Looking for your guidance - recently meet a girl. Definite cutie - I like her vibe. Asked her for her number a couple of weeks ago and got it.

I waited a couple of days to message her as I had plans for the weekend.

Eventually did message her - had a low key good conversation (funny small talk kinda stuff) on Sunday. When the conversation was heating up she mentioned she was heading to a family event to which I said to message me whenever she was free.

She did.

But said she couldn’t talk because she had to study for a test. Said we’d talk soon.

Said no problem and good luck on her test.

Now I’m not sure how to approach. I don’t want to look desperate and iniate conversation again. But I would like to escalate as I would like to continue the pursuit.

Any advice?

Thanks everyone!
T

P.S it’s her bday this Wednesday and she has plans this Saturday. So asking her out this week would be tough.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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djthiago1

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AVOID special dates until in a relationship. (Bdays, easter, Xmas ....)
and
AVOID pointless messaging, set up a date, than another, than another, than other.
 

Tedhe

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I think letting the week play out is best - let her get her fun out for her bday (I don’t want any part of that)

I’ll wish her on Wednesday and reach out next week
 

narcissist

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Just ask her out now

If she is interested she will accept

If she says no, then ask her out next week

Stop stalling to avoid your fear of rejection

The best time to ask is always now
 

Tedhe

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Update.

Not good - Not bad.

Asked her out for this week but she said she was busy for the week and then she asked me if I was around on Saturday. Sadly I cannnot - as I am busy on Saturday - So it looks like the ask was nullified? How should I proceed?

Thanks for all the great advice too folks!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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