"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to Prevent a Cauliflower Ear?

Pecker

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I've just started taking a russian sambo class, and it works wonders for my self esteem. It's very therapeutic for me even though my entire body hurts like hel1 afterwards.

But I'm worried about getting cauliflower ears. I heard that you're supposed to drain your ear if it gets red and inflamed, but are the pre-stages of cauliflower ears always that blatant? And can you drain them yourself? What time frame do you have to drain your ear once it's swollen and puffy?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dont understand. Whats russian sambo? WHat are cauliflower ears? Why would you get them, what causes it?

Btw i could probably answer all these questions myself if i wasnt lazy.

May this will help www.webmd.com
 

Pecker

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Sambo is a grappling sport much like Brazilian Jiu Jitsu.

Cauliflower ears are what you get when you shock the ear and tear the skin from the cartilage. They look big and ugly.
 

Chewy Bagel

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Cauliflower ear is common in boxing and wrestling as well as just about any full contact martial arts. The use of wrestling headgear allowed me to avoid getting it. I had a buddy who got it (even while using headgear) and we had to stick a needle in his ear that night to drain it. Do a search using google or ask your coach, maybe he can give you some information.

Good Luck!
 

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if anyone has ever seen the assistant wrestling coach at minnesota university you would see how gross cauliflower ear really is.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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misunderstood??

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get a scrum cap:) some ppl tape their ears to their head to prevent it too, u might look goofy though but then again so does cauliflower ear
 

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Originally posted by Pecker
I've just started taking a russian sambo class, and it works wonders for my self esteem. It's very therapeutic for me even though my entire body hurts like hel1 afterwards.

But I'm worried about getting cauliflower ears. I heard that you're supposed to drain your ear if it gets red and inflamed, but are the pre-stages of cauliflower ears always that blatant? And can you drain them yourself? What time frame do you have to drain your ear once it's swollen and puffy?
The only way to prevent that is to get a wrestling headgear. Especially doing shyt like Sambo, you could get your ear ripped off.
 
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