"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to Politely Decline?

dannycc

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We all encounter situations where we want or have to decline a social invitation or a girl who is not quite who we want.

The more I go out, the more social I am, the more this becomes a real issue.

Saturday night, there was a gal who, while not horrible looking, was just not my type. She approached me many times and invited me to a specific club. At first, she simply said she was going there. Then, she came back and told me she was going, and waited for me. Then, she came back and told me she was going, waited, invited me, and kept asking even though I said I said I was staying at this first spot.

The next day, I ran into a woman who has repeatedly invited me out and wants to meet up. She is engaged, so I really don't feel like it. She made a bit of a scene, even though I told her politely several times my schedule doesn't allow it.

How do you handle women who keep begging you to come with them?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Masculinity

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I think you handled it pretty well. There will always be a person or two who are persistent and will not take not for an answer. Sometimes, you have to be ambiguous as to why you're rejecting them so that bridges aren't burned.
 

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Pook has a specific section on this, called "W0manese."
 

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Well, I wish I had that many opportunities. I did have 7 or 8 women approach me on saturday so I have plenty of opportunities.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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El Payaso

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Tell them no.
 
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