"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to Politely Decline?

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We all encounter situations where we want or have to decline a social invitation or a girl who is not quite who we want.

The more I go out, the more social I am, the more this becomes a real issue.

Saturday night, there was a gal who, while not horrible looking, was just not my type. She approached me many times and invited me to a specific club. At first, she simply said she was going there. Then, she came back and told me she was going, and waited for me. Then, she came back and told me she was going, waited, invited me, and kept asking even though I said I said I was staying at this first spot.

The next day, I ran into a woman who has repeatedly invited me out and wants to meet up. She is engaged, so I really don't feel like it. She made a bit of a scene, even though I told her politely several times my schedule doesn't allow it.

How do you handle women who keep begging you to come with them?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Masculinity

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I think you handled it pretty well. There will always be a person or two who are persistent and will not take not for an answer. Sometimes, you have to be ambiguous as to why you're rejecting them so that bridges aren't burned.
 

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Pook has a specific section on this, called "W0manese."
 

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Well, I wish I had that many opportunities. I did have 7 or 8 women approach me on saturday so I have plenty of opportunities.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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El Payaso

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Tell them no.
 
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