"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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How to play my cards right here? It's looking good...

MascaraSnake

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OK, so I'm in an algebra class and there's a space between that and the next class. I often sit there and do some work before I get going to whatever is on my schedule that day.

A few weeks ago I started talking to a woman who attends that one and we've been talking an awful lot lately due to my class ending right before hers starts (almost every day now). Mostly a lightly flirty banter...I don't turn it up THAT much with people I don't know well.

Anyway, since the class right after mine is the next level up in math, I "sat in" on one (obviously with the sole purpose of getting her number) and ended up getting it on the basis of studying next semester.

How should I go about asking her out without looking like a tool? It just dawned on me that exams are next week and I then have three weeks of winter break, so I'll at the very least not be speaking with her for a month or so, let alone do any of the "studying" we talked about.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bob2007

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Why would u sit in a class to ask out? Just ask her out when you talk to her after your class.

"(obviously with the sole purpose of getting her number) and ended up getting it on the basis of studying next semester." not so cool, I donno any NERDS in school that would do that.

I think if you ask her out confidently, u'll get teh girl. Most guys in college are supplicating AFCs.
 
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MascaraSnake

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"not so cool, I donno any NERDS in school that would do that."

I was intending on sitting in a Math 80 class at some point anyway to get a feel for the type of problems I'll be doing next semester (the math teachers at my school are legendarily bad). It's not like I swam across the Atlantic to get this number.
 

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MascaraSnake said:
How should I go about asking her out without looking like a tool? It just dawned on me that exams are next week and I then have three weeks of winter break, so I'll at the very least not be speaking with her for a month or so, let alone do any of the "studying" we talked about.

"Hi ______ . Perhaps when are exams are done you would be able to join me for coffee. I know this great little place around the corner and you could tell me about the course next semester."
 

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"Hi ______ . Perhaps when are exams are done you would be able to join me for coffee. I know this great little place around the corner and you could tell me about the course next semester."
^ Perfect.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"and you could tell me about the course next semester."
Boring + friendliness = boring and friendly

In my opinion, at least, you shouldn't need to tell the girl an excuse (especially a lame one) to have 1 on 1 time with a girl. Unless you're trying to mask your intentions, or lower her defence, but it's obvious anyways why you're asking her out. If you 'friendly'-up the invite, things can go downhill (friendzone, subtlety, "ioi?", etc) from there.
 

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MisterMcGee said:
"and you could tell me about the course next semester."
Boring + friendliness = boring and friendly

In my opinion, at least, you shouldn't need to tell the girl an excuse (especially a lame one) to have 1 on 1 time with a girl. Unless you're trying to mask your intentions, or lower her defence, but it's obvious anyways why you're asking her out. If you 'friendly'-up the invite, things can go downhill (friendzone, subtlety, "ioi?", etc) from there.
Be a man in her eyes, cause thats what you are. The friendly approach probably works in college too, but u could just end up wasting a lot of time slowly asking her out and finding out she's not interested.
 
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