"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to play my cards right here? It's looking good...

MascaraSnake

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OK, so I'm in an algebra class and there's a space between that and the next class. I often sit there and do some work before I get going to whatever is on my schedule that day.

A few weeks ago I started talking to a woman who attends that one and we've been talking an awful lot lately due to my class ending right before hers starts (almost every day now). Mostly a lightly flirty banter...I don't turn it up THAT much with people I don't know well.

Anyway, since the class right after mine is the next level up in math, I "sat in" on one (obviously with the sole purpose of getting her number) and ended up getting it on the basis of studying next semester.

How should I go about asking her out without looking like a tool? It just dawned on me that exams are next week and I then have three weeks of winter break, so I'll at the very least not be speaking with her for a month or so, let alone do any of the "studying" we talked about.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bob2007

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Why would u sit in a class to ask out? Just ask her out when you talk to her after your class.

"(obviously with the sole purpose of getting her number) and ended up getting it on the basis of studying next semester." not so cool, I donno any NERDS in school that would do that.

I think if you ask her out confidently, u'll get teh girl. Most guys in college are supplicating AFCs.
 
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MascaraSnake

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"not so cool, I donno any NERDS in school that would do that."

I was intending on sitting in a Math 80 class at some point anyway to get a feel for the type of problems I'll be doing next semester (the math teachers at my school are legendarily bad). It's not like I swam across the Atlantic to get this number.
 

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MascaraSnake said:
How should I go about asking her out without looking like a tool? It just dawned on me that exams are next week and I then have three weeks of winter break, so I'll at the very least not be speaking with her for a month or so, let alone do any of the "studying" we talked about.

"Hi ______ . Perhaps when are exams are done you would be able to join me for coffee. I know this great little place around the corner and you could tell me about the course next semester."
 

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"Hi ______ . Perhaps when are exams are done you would be able to join me for coffee. I know this great little place around the corner and you could tell me about the course next semester."
^ Perfect.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"and you could tell me about the course next semester."
Boring + friendliness = boring and friendly

In my opinion, at least, you shouldn't need to tell the girl an excuse (especially a lame one) to have 1 on 1 time with a girl. Unless you're trying to mask your intentions, or lower her defence, but it's obvious anyways why you're asking her out. If you 'friendly'-up the invite, things can go downhill (friendzone, subtlety, "ioi?", etc) from there.
 

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MisterMcGee said:
"and you could tell me about the course next semester."
Boring + friendliness = boring and friendly

In my opinion, at least, you shouldn't need to tell the girl an excuse (especially a lame one) to have 1 on 1 time with a girl. Unless you're trying to mask your intentions, or lower her defence, but it's obvious anyways why you're asking her out. If you 'friendly'-up the invite, things can go downhill (friendzone, subtlety, "ioi?", etc) from there.
Be a man in her eyes, cause thats what you are. The friendly approach probably works in college too, but u could just end up wasting a lot of time slowly asking her out and finding out she's not interested.
 
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