"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MascaraSnake

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OK, so I'm in an algebra class and there's a space between that and the next class. I often sit there and do some work before I get going to whatever is on my schedule that day.

A few weeks ago I started talking to a woman who attends that one and we've been talking an awful lot lately due to my class ending right before hers starts (almost every day now). Mostly a lightly flirty banter...I don't turn it up THAT much with people I don't know well.

Anyway, since the class right after mine is the next level up in math, I "sat in" on one (obviously with the sole purpose of getting her number) and ended up getting it on the basis of studying next semester.

How should I go about asking her out without looking like a tool? It just dawned on me that exams are next week and I then have three weeks of winter break, so I'll at the very least not be speaking with her for a month or so, let alone do any of the "studying" we talked about.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bob2007

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Why would u sit in a class to ask out? Just ask her out when you talk to her after your class.

"(obviously with the sole purpose of getting her number) and ended up getting it on the basis of studying next semester." not so cool, I donno any NERDS in school that would do that.

I think if you ask her out confidently, u'll get teh girl. Most guys in college are supplicating AFCs.
 
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MascaraSnake

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"not so cool, I donno any NERDS in school that would do that."

I was intending on sitting in a Math 80 class at some point anyway to get a feel for the type of problems I'll be doing next semester (the math teachers at my school are legendarily bad). It's not like I swam across the Atlantic to get this number.
 

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MascaraSnake said:
How should I go about asking her out without looking like a tool? It just dawned on me that exams are next week and I then have three weeks of winter break, so I'll at the very least not be speaking with her for a month or so, let alone do any of the "studying" we talked about.

"Hi ______ . Perhaps when are exams are done you would be able to join me for coffee. I know this great little place around the corner and you could tell me about the course next semester."
 

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"Hi ______ . Perhaps when are exams are done you would be able to join me for coffee. I know this great little place around the corner and you could tell me about the course next semester."
^ Perfect.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"and you could tell me about the course next semester."
Boring + friendliness = boring and friendly

In my opinion, at least, you shouldn't need to tell the girl an excuse (especially a lame one) to have 1 on 1 time with a girl. Unless you're trying to mask your intentions, or lower her defence, but it's obvious anyways why you're asking her out. If you 'friendly'-up the invite, things can go downhill (friendzone, subtlety, "ioi?", etc) from there.
 

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MisterMcGee said:
"and you could tell me about the course next semester."
Boring + friendliness = boring and friendly

In my opinion, at least, you shouldn't need to tell the girl an excuse (especially a lame one) to have 1 on 1 time with a girl. Unless you're trying to mask your intentions, or lower her defence, but it's obvious anyways why you're asking her out. If you 'friendly'-up the invite, things can go downhill (friendzone, subtlety, "ioi?", etc) from there.
Be a man in her eyes, cause thats what you are. The friendly approach probably works in college too, but u could just end up wasting a lot of time slowly asking her out and finding out she's not interested.
 
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