"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to NOT let the ball get in her court?

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Demystify

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So I've discovered that one of my biggest problems is that I often let the ball get in her court. This could happen upon first meeting the girl or even after a week of knowing her. So any tips on how to NOT let the ball get in her court?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Allurre said:
Want the ball back? Wait for her to pass back.

In the meantime, don't talk to her, get on with
other areas of your life that keeps you
productive.
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Make sure she doesn't pull a Magic Johnson or Michael Jordan on you! LOL..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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.... you control the cards and let her choose between the cards that you deal.
 
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xdreamz said:
.... you control the cards and let her choose between the cards that you deal.
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Well what if she acts like the ball is in her court right off the bat? Then what should I do?
 
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