"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to not come off as creepy/pyscho...

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I know how not too,but I have always come off as shy,even spaced out. But I need to know exactly how to not show any red flags as they say.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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CapedCrusader08 said:
I know how not too,but I have always come off as shy,even spaced out. But I need to know exactly how to not show any red flags as they say.
Same for me. Shy and spacy. Am looking forward to responses, too.
 

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CapedCrusader08 said:
I know how not too,but I have always come off as shy,even spaced out. But I need to know exactly how to not show any red flags as they say.
i don't understand your question.

if you are asking "How not to come off creepy"..

then the answer is simple.

DONT BE CREEPY.

go get laid. a lot. and you will learn what works and what doesn't work with women. by the time you laid 10-20 girls, you won't be creepy anymore.

what else do you wanna hear? sit in your room and meditate "I am not creepy"? haha.

just go out there and meet women man. you will mess up and make mistakes, but eventually you will learn. you can't sit on the internet and have someone tell you what is creepy and what is not creepy.

if a woman rolls her eyes at you, then it's probably creepy. if she cries on the phone because she's afraid of you, then you are creepy.
 

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Creepiness is a multitude of things, with one of the main things trying to be controlling.

Things like stalking, staring with a blank look on your face, touching her in awkward ways are all examples of creepy.
 

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I know how not too,but I have always come off as shy,even spaced out. But I need to know exactly how to not show any red flags as they say.

Guess that makes two of us. I'm a weird person by nature so I guess me just being myself makes me a hopeless case. I don't bother talking to women I've never seen before because they act as if I'm about to rape or kill them. I even remember a case in which I was about to strike up a conversation at a park and this gorgeous brunette with giant knockers began running away from me (No exaggeration) as I was walking up to her. That wounded whatever small self esteem I had and it happened almost five years ago.

More recent ones are when I offered a girl I actually know a ride home and she gets all ****ing scared. She agreed to meet at a certain time and when the time came I soon realized she ran away. And even more recently I try to make small talk with a cute brunette I never even met but she puts on a fake smile and acts all evasive. Now every time I see her she rolls her eyes, crosses her arms and acts as if I'm not there. And to make a short story even shorter I had two attention *****s who were giving me all the signs and as I began walking to them they start running across the streets saying stuff with the word "rape" in it. I don't know why these things happen only to me but I guess I'm just a hideous mother****er, a psycho/creep or maybe all of the above.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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There are plenty of women out there who think they are outcasts, too:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1468664#post1468664

It is worse for them, because women tend to value social interaction more than men.

Some people are just loners, and that makes it a little harder to get girls. I grew up as an only child in the middle of nowhere, and I am pretty much a loner. My advice would be to pursue your hobbies and interests that women might find sexy. Motorcycles and other dangerous hobbies helped me. Martial arts helps now. But it does not have to be tough-guy stuff. A lot of women will go for artistic loners and musicians. If you are an artist, it is ok to be alone - you get one of the few exceptions to the loner=loser perception that a lot of women have. Being on a motorcycle or doing something exciting and dangerous helps, too. These things will make some women want you - never all women. No guy has a 100% chance with any given girl. Don't worry about individual failures, just cultivate the parts of you that raise your overall chances with girls. As soon as you start getting women, it all gets a lot easier.
 

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Creepiness is a lot about context.

For the most part, if you're outgoing and friendly to everyone, you won't be creepy. Don't always focus your attention on one person too much.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
My advice would be to pursue your hobbies and interests that women might find sexy. Motorcycles and other dangerous hobbies helped me. Martial arts helps now.
What happens if a man's hobbies aren't an interest to women? Should he take up a hobby that he hates but will interest women? Isn't this the opposite of being a DJ because it's a form of fakeness?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There is another thread on here about that. No, don't fake it. It is better to be passionate about your passions, whatever they are.

But I am saying, if you are a loner, it helps with women to pursue either your dangerous or your artistic sides - these are two good angles to take to avoid seeming creepy.
 

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i was in that spot like a year ago. Just be comfortable. Give it time. Youll get out of that zone after you get more time with girls around you.
 

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Being Comfortable and Natural in Social Situations

The key to being comfortable and natural in social situations is to expose yourself to social situations. Expose yourself, to as many situations and as varied of situation as possible. Force yourself to go out more, man. It will be very painful at first, believe me. But it's the only way to overcome that shyness. You will stumble, and you will fall. But by god you will pick yourself up and go at it again.

Man, a lot of people are saying "go get laid, that will solve your shyness". That's not it. That's like telling someone with vertigo to go scale the Eiffel tower and bungee from the top. See, we work up to that.

Baby steps my friend. Start small and make yourself a schedule for going out more. Putting aside one or two weeknights for a "social awakening boot camp" will do you tremendously well, my timid friend. Go out with a buddy and learn a new bar game. Darts is my favorite choice. Pool is another excellent example. You want to ground yourself in something real you can focus on that's not centered around a pair of perky tits and a cute little ass. Later on in your awakening, when you're comfortable in your own self and you can maintain focus, that confidence will translate over into the realm of women. And then MAGIC, you're beginning to create attraction. Baby steps my friend.

The bar game and the conversation with your buddy(ies) will be the necessary tools in your social enlightenment. Not only do they ground you and focus you, but they also relax you and in turn make you more receptive to humor, which is absolutely key in attracting women.

If there's one thing I could tell you, man, it's to work on your overall social confidence first and foremost, and then and only then--only after you are confident and relaxed going out on a weeknight with a buddy to play a game of darts in a crowded bar--then you can think about sharpening it more specifically.

Sam Butcher

"Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain." -Mark Twain
 

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Being Comfortable and Natural in Social Situations
The key to being comfortable and natural in social situations is to expose yourself to social situations. Expose yourself, to as many situations and as varied of situation as possible. Force yourself to go out more, man. It will be very painful at first, believe me. But it's the only way to overcome that shyness. You will stumble, and you will fall. But by god you will pick yourself up and go at it again.

Man, a lot of people are saying "go get laid, that will solve your shyness". That's not it. That's like telling someone with vertigo to go scale the Eiffel tower and bungee from the top. See, we work up to that.

Baby steps my friend. Start small and make yourself a schedule for going out more. Putting aside one or two weeknights for a "social awakening boot camp" will do you tremendously well, my timid friend. Go out with a buddy and learn a new bar game. Darts is my favorite choice. Pool is another excellent example. You want to ground yourself in something real you can focus on that's not centered around a pair of perky tits and a cute little ass. Later on in your awakening, when you're comfortable in your own self and you can maintain focus, that confidence will translate over into the realm of women. And then MAGIC, you're beginning to create attraction. Baby steps my friend.

The bar game and the conversation with your buddy(ies) will be the necessary tools in your social enlightenment. Not only do they ground you and focus you, but they also relax you and in turn make you more receptive to humor, which is absolutely key in attracting women.

If there's one thing I could tell you, man, it's to work on your overall social confidence first and foremost, and then and only then--only after you are confident and relaxed going out on a weeknight with a buddy to play a game of darts in a crowded bar--then you can think about sharpening it more specifically.

Sam Butcher

"Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain." -Mark Twain


Sounds like a plan :up: Only problem is I really don't have any friends. The only one I have is kind of ***** whipped at the moment.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Here's a simple solution to not being creepy:

SMILE.

^^smile when you open. have a positive value giving smile.
 
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