I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How to NOT act like she's the only girl in the world?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mr.Freestyler19
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+1!
Tell yourself not to be so naive and easy.
No girl is YOUR dream girl until she actually PROVES herself to you.
... and should never be based on looks alone.
So, approach the girl with a mindset where you want to see if she qualifies for your personal criteria!
No girl is YOUR dream girl until she actually PROVES herself to you.
... and should never be based on looks alone.
So, approach the girl with a mindset where you want to see if she qualifies for your personal criteria!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
needstochange
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How do you express that she isn't the only girl in conversation or other ways without saying it directly?
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
She is not. Look for another one.How to NOT act like she's the only girl in the world?
Demystify said:I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
Let me get this clear. So if you are seeing three girls you treat each one like they are the only girl in the world?
Explain in detail how exactly do you treat them like the only girl in the world. What exactly do you do? because until you explain everyone above is just taking shots in the dark at your "problem". We need more info and facts. Spell it out.
Demystify said:I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
i feel like i do this also but my advice would be to try to interact with that one girl less. Call her less, hit up multiple girls at a time, etc
DjVita
Don Juan
because there are around 3,000,000,000 women in this sorry planet, so why fuss over 1?
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
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