I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
How to NOT act like she's the only girl in the world?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Mr.Freestyler19
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+1!
Tell yourself not to be so naive and easy.
No girl is YOUR dream girl until she actually PROVES herself to you.
... and should never be based on looks alone.
So, approach the girl with a mindset where you want to see if she qualifies for your personal criteria!
No girl is YOUR dream girl until she actually PROVES herself to you.
... and should never be based on looks alone.
So, approach the girl with a mindset where you want to see if she qualifies for your personal criteria!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
needstochange
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How do you express that she isn't the only girl in conversation or other ways without saying it directly?
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
She is not. Look for another one.How to NOT act like she's the only girl in the world?
Demystify said:I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
Let me get this clear. So if you are seeing three girls you treat each one like they are the only girl in the world?
Explain in detail how exactly do you treat them like the only girl in the world. What exactly do you do? because until you explain everyone above is just taking shots in the dark at your "problem". We need more info and facts. Spell it out.
Demystify said:I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
i feel like i do this also but my advice would be to try to interact with that one girl less. Call her less, hit up multiple girls at a time, etc
DjVita
Don Juan
because there are around 3,000,000,000 women in this sorry planet, so why fuss over 1?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.