I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to NOT act like she's the only girl in the world?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mr.Freestyler19
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+1!
Tell yourself not to be so naive and easy.
No girl is YOUR dream girl until she actually PROVES herself to you.
... and should never be based on looks alone.
So, approach the girl with a mindset where you want to see if she qualifies for your personal criteria!
No girl is YOUR dream girl until she actually PROVES herself to you.
... and should never be based on looks alone.
So, approach the girl with a mindset where you want to see if she qualifies for your personal criteria!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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How do you express that she isn't the only girl in conversation or other ways without saying it directly?
Nygard
Senior Don Juan
She is not. Look for another one.How to NOT act like she's the only girl in the world?
Demystify said:I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
Let me get this clear. So if you are seeing three girls you treat each one like they are the only girl in the world?
Explain in detail how exactly do you treat them like the only girl in the world. What exactly do you do? because until you explain everyone above is just taking shots in the dark at your "problem". We need more info and facts. Spell it out.
Demystify said:I've noticed that this is a perpetual problem of mine. Regardless of whether I'm going for multiple girls at once or just one girl at a time. I'll still act like the girl I'm going for is the ONLY girl in the world. How can I change this mindset?
i feel like i do this also but my advice would be to try to interact with that one girl less. Call her less, hit up multiple girls at a time, etc
DjVita
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because there are around 3,000,000,000 women in this sorry planet, so why fuss over 1?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.