"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to Next a girl you really like?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
intraining
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I'm not normally like this, totally out of char for me...just not easy.
Love_Games?!?
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drmeathead
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Micheal Moon
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DJ1234
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There just seems to be so much emphasis of nexting a girl for any reason at all, Was it absolutely necessary?
If it was...it's tuff nexting a girl but putting you rfocus on other things and having a mentality of blocking out any memories of her can help. GL.
I think part of it is to:demonic said:
1) Have so many incredible women that you're going for, as well as some really cool genuine female friends.
2) Being really busy helps at times.
Now, as to the first part, I have no idea how to go about that. Most of my friends are dudes.
Being busy can be helpful, in that you're hopefully not always so preoccupied with a particular woman. It's noot so good when you become too busy to talk with women, or meet women. Work can become a crutch, too, so it has to be a balance.
Personally, holidays were hell. I was busy. Then all the social stuff got canceled, and there weren't any parties. Nothing starts up until next week, so I've got to wait another week to get a chance to hang out with women.
As far as women go, nothings going to happen at least for another month. I'm going to see what I can do to get my social life back on track with women, and have more options, cause I can start to feel that "i'm getting nowhere" frustration, which will lead to anger.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wjh
Master Don Juan
She needed it, I needed it. I still think about her. Sometimes constantly.
There was a lead up to our break up of fighting and miscommunication.
Unfortunately, we had to end. All I did was tell her that I couldn't do this anymore. She understood. It was very, very difficult.
There was some communication, sporatically at first. Now, it's pretty much over. I've given myself closure in my own mind. I have no choice in the matter. Even though this was the girl I thought I was going to eventually marry.
What I've resolved to do is work on myself as much as possible. I've been chatting girls up, groups of them even, going on a few small dates. Nothing serious. I'm not ready for anything serious.
I've been trying to hang out with friends as much as possible and develop my career.
That's it.
Knowing you made the right decision, working on yourself (staying busy) and time without her is the only way I know how to move on.
My ex wrote me an e-mail Friday, telling me happy new years, apologizing for some of the things she did. I didn't respond. Yesterday she sent me a follow-up e-mail telling me that she understood why I didn't respond.
It's taking every ounce of my spirit to not e-mail or call her. I have to detach and if I'm available whenever she sends me an email or calls me, I will never grow beyond this. It's incredibly difficult but the only way.
wjh
Master Don Juan
The source for your happiness must lie within yourself.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
I'm to focused in the moment to worry about where this interaction is headed. I will have and offer a great experience to the chicks whether its 2mins or 2 years.
Of course you'll feel those things, but when it comes to NEXTING its basically a girl who has crossed one of your lines. I think MANY people on this site NEXT way to quickly, me personally NEXTING is something that has to do with stuff I will and will not tolerate.
Flaking doesn't necessarily mean NEXT for me because I'll just put the # low in rotation and call back even a month later and if she forgets who I was it allows me to re game. But as far as say, she does something that is very annoying that I dislike I'd walk away no matter if we were having many weeks of great experiences.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I carried on with the relationship because i really liked her, but the last straw came when she said she could'nt see me ALL this week as she was too busy.Now as her bf you'de have though she could've made more of an effort.