How to Next a girl you really like?

[demonic]

How the hell do you guys manage to "Next" a girl you really really like and thought you had a future with?.

I know it's lame to ask but this is one of the most difficult things i've come across.

 

[intraining]

Its really hard to do well for me it is but i guess the only thing i can tell you is try to block out everything that reminds you of her.If you nexted her recently it may be a while until she really gets out of your head but then again i dont kno how strong of a person you are.

 

[demonic]

I think i could next her, but i guess you have that feeling in the back of your head "will i ever meet that girl who makes me feel like this again" i know this is AFC stuff.

I'm not normally like this, totally out of char for me...just not easy.

 

[Love_Games?!?]

I'm in the same situation bro... you gotta keep yourself busy for sure. If your lazin around it gives you time to think, and more than likely you'll be thinking about her. So go out and do whatever... especially date new chicks!

 

[drmeathead]

no contact with her and lots of contact with the other 3 billion plus women of the world

 

[Micheal Moon]

Focusing on other women and avoiding all contact. Out of sight out of mind.

 

[aliasguy]

Why do you have to "next" her?

Did she LJBF you or turn you down or what?

 

[sexy_kuta]

no contact with her and lots of contact with the other 3 billion plus women of the world

such little words yet big meanings.

this is the best post in the whole thread, its your ultimate tool.

SPIN PLATES

 

[DJ1234]

yes, why did you have to NEXT her?

There just seems to be so much emphasis of nexting a girl for any reason at all, Was it absolutely necessary?

If it was...it's tuff nexting a girl but putting you rfocus on other things and having a mentality of blocking out any memories of her can help. GL.

 

[Mental]

How the hell do you guys manage to "Next" a girl you really really like and thought you had a future with?.

I know it's lame to ask but this is one of the most difficult things i've come across.

I think part of it is to:

1) Have so many incredible women that you're going for, as well as some really cool genuine female friends.

2) Being really busy helps at times.

Now, as to the first part, I have no idea how to go about that. Most of my friends are dudes.

Being busy can be helpful, in that you're hopefully not always so preoccupied with a particular woman. It's noot so good when you become too busy to talk with women, or meet women. Work can become a crutch, too, so it has to be a balance.

Personally, holidays were hell. I was busy. Then all the social stuff got canceled, and there weren't any parties. Nothing starts up until next week, so I've got to wait another week to get a chance to hang out with women.

As far as women go, nothings going to happen at least for another month. I'm going to see what I can do to get my social life back on track with women, and have more options, cause I can start to feel that "i'm getting nowhere" frustration, which will lead to anger.

 

[wjh]

About four months ago I let go of the girl I was truly in love with.

She needed it, I needed it. I still think about her. Sometimes constantly.

There was a lead up to our break up of fighting and miscommunication.

Unfortunately, we had to end. All I did was tell her that I couldn't do this anymore. She understood. It was very, very difficult.

There was some communication, sporatically at first. Now, it's pretty much over. I've given myself closure in my own mind. I have no choice in the matter. Even though this was the girl I thought I was going to eventually marry.

What I've resolved to do is work on myself as much as possible. I've been chatting girls up, groups of them even, going on a few small dates. Nothing serious. I'm not ready for anything serious.

I've been trying to hang out with friends as much as possible and develop my career.

That's it.

Knowing you made the right decision, working on yourself (staying busy) and time without her is the only way I know how to move on.

My ex wrote me an e-mail Friday, telling me happy new years, apologizing for some of the things she did. I didn't respond. Yesterday she sent me a follow-up e-mail telling me that she understood why I didn't respond.

It's taking every ounce of my spirit to not e-mail or call her. I have to detach and if I'm available whenever she sends me an email or calls me, I will never grow beyond this. It's incredibly difficult but the only way.

 

[wjh]

I also don't believe that other women is the answer. Although it can definitely help to ease the pain.

The source for your happiness must lie within yourself.

 

[penkitten]

why don't you just tell her that you realize that nothing is wrong between the two of you, and you really do like her a lot, but you have so many things going on in your life that you just do not feel like you can devote the time needed to be in a relationship. tell her that she deserves to know so that she doesn't waste her time on you and that you are being honest with her because you do care about her and you still want to be friends?

 

[Snow Plowman]

It's about having an abundance mentality...really look at what your learning your about to become a man of options, so losing this one girl shouldn't be a fear.

I'm to focused in the moment to worry about where this interaction is headed. I will have and offer a great experience to the chicks whether its 2mins or 2 years.

Of course you'll feel those things, but when it comes to NEXTING its basically a girl who has crossed one of your lines. I think MANY people on this site NEXT way to quickly, me personally NEXTING is something that has to do with stuff I will and will not tolerate.

Flaking doesn't necessarily mean NEXT for me because I'll just put the # low in rotation and call back even a month later and if she forgets who I was it allows me to re game. But as far as say, she does something that is very annoying that I dislike I'd walk away no matter if we were having many weeks of great experiences.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Before I met my previous girlfriend. I was dating this one chick I really liked. I thought she was great and a unique girl. Always had fun hanging out with her. Anyways, I cut her out and started a new draft. I was a little bummed at first but, I kept positive about all the other girls I get to meet. So, keeping positive and not letting it bring me down I went out and gamed other women. Turns out I found a girl I liked better than her. Which, is now my previous girlfriend.

 

[demonic]

I had no choice but to next her guys, she was a (Self harmer) among other things like (she hears voices) the sad thing is at first i had no clue about these things.

I carried on with the relationship because i really liked her, but the last straw came when she said she could'nt see me ALL this week as she was too busy.Now as her bf you'de have though she could've made more of an effort.

 

[Effington]

It's definitely one of the harder things to do, but the main key (to quitting anything, really) is to keep yourself busy. If you're busy, you're not thinking about what you're not doing. However, it's much easier said than done.