So I've been gone from the dating scene for awhile. I used to meet a lot of women off of Myspace back in the day. I do miss how easy and covert Myspace dating was. You could search location, and specifications on what girl you are seeking. No other app has ever come close to Myspace dating from my experience. How are you all meeting women nowadays? Instragram? Tinder? POF? Or what is good?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to meet women nowadays?
- Thread starter rocco
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RoadKing_Rabbit
Senior Don Juan
People swear by instagram. I wouldn't know. In my honest opinion, nothing was easier than myspace, (hell even Xanga!), except perhaps the original okcupid or POF. Most of what I did was inner circle and cold approach. I also did the 'nono' thing and dated/hooked up with coworkers often.
I'd say now that cold approach wins. I just have a few things I enjoy that can be done in public and it's relatively easy to ask someone to come along when I'm going to do one. A few of my military buddies swear up and down that 'fetlife' is the way to go. I've only used it once to get with a few ladies and wished I hadn't. Still an experience though! I wouldn't recommend it for anything other than fwb.
BTW, tinder and pof are both trash.
I'd say now that cold approach wins. I just have a few things I enjoy that can be done in public and it's relatively easy to ask someone to come along when I'm going to do one. A few of my military buddies swear up and down that 'fetlife' is the way to go. I've only used it once to get with a few ladies and wished I hadn't. Still an experience though! I wouldn't recommend it for anything other than fwb.
BTW, tinder and pof are both trash.
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Its been 2years since I was dating random women. It was pretty much Hinge and Bumble for me. POF turned into garbage a long time ago, Tinder isn't far behind. I did talk to a few on facebook dating. My best success happened in bars from dancing and going to concerts.
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@rocco "So I've been gone from the dating scene for awhile. I used to meet a lot of women off of Myspace back in the day"
"Awhile" indeed... As to your question:
You can meet women pretty much anywhere. Obviously, the quality of one's potential acquisitions increases sharply, once you move beyond dive bars and the DMV waiting room, get into activities like yoga, ballroom dancing, art history, etc etc
"Awhile" indeed... As to your question:
You can meet women pretty much anywhere. Obviously, the quality of one's potential acquisitions increases sharply, once you move beyond dive bars and the DMV waiting room, get into activities like yoga, ballroom dancing, art history, etc etc
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.