So I've been gone from the dating scene for awhile. I used to meet a lot of women off of Myspace back in the day. I do miss how easy and covert Myspace dating was. You could search location, and specifications on what girl you are seeking. No other app has ever come close to Myspace dating from my experience. How are you all meeting women nowadays? Instragram? Tinder? POF? Or what is good?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to meet women nowadays?
- Thread starter rocco
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
RoadKing_Rabbit
Senior Don Juan
People swear by instagram. I wouldn't know. In my honest opinion, nothing was easier than myspace, (hell even Xanga!), except perhaps the original okcupid or POF. Most of what I did was inner circle and cold approach. I also did the 'nono' thing and dated/hooked up with coworkers often.
I'd say now that cold approach wins. I just have a few things I enjoy that can be done in public and it's relatively easy to ask someone to come along when I'm going to do one. A few of my military buddies swear up and down that 'fetlife' is the way to go. I've only used it once to get with a few ladies and wished I hadn't. Still an experience though! I wouldn't recommend it for anything other than fwb.
BTW, tinder and pof are both trash.
I'd say now that cold approach wins. I just have a few things I enjoy that can be done in public and it's relatively easy to ask someone to come along when I'm going to do one. A few of my military buddies swear up and down that 'fetlife' is the way to go. I've only used it once to get with a few ladies and wished I hadn't. Still an experience though! I wouldn't recommend it for anything other than fwb.
BTW, tinder and pof are both trash.
The Duke
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Its been 2years since I was dating random women. It was pretty much Hinge and Bumble for me. POF turned into garbage a long time ago, Tinder isn't far behind. I did talk to a few on facebook dating. My best success happened in bars from dancing and going to concerts.
BaronOfHair
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@rocco "So I've been gone from the dating scene for awhile. I used to meet a lot of women off of Myspace back in the day"
"Awhile" indeed... As to your question:
You can meet women pretty much anywhere. Obviously, the quality of one's potential acquisitions increases sharply, once you move beyond dive bars and the DMV waiting room, get into activities like yoga, ballroom dancing, art history, etc etc
"Awhile" indeed... As to your question:
You can meet women pretty much anywhere. Obviously, the quality of one's potential acquisitions increases sharply, once you move beyond dive bars and the DMV waiting room, get into activities like yoga, ballroom dancing, art history, etc etc
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.