"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how to make sure girls dont back off

mrsoy

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hey i just broke up with my gf of 9 months and we decided to be friends. my question is how can i make sure other girls arent weirded out by this but still have my ex as a friend.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Like Pfeile said there isn't any reason for them to be weirded out. In fact it's helpful in loads of ways because if you're ex started *****ing about you to her friends then that would be bad. You're showing that if a relationship doesn't work then you can still be good friends.
 

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well i mean,if they see us talking in the halls or something i dont want people to be like "are they together or what,blahblahblah" idk im probly a little paranoid bout it. we were together for about 10 months so im not totally sure im over her yet so i dont want to end up wanting to get back with her cause i know if i did, id just get that bad feeling again. eh
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MoveYourAss...

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Originally posted by mrsoy
im probly a little paranoid bout it.
Yes you are. Forget about that.

BUT MAKE SURE THAT YOU DON'T HAVE ONEITIS !!!!!!
This will NEVER lead to a good end (because she will simply not be attracted by you but may use you, she also is probably still very young) and then indeed your reputation will be the one of a FOOL AND IDIOT. But the worst is: It will not only be your reputation: you waste a lot of time, and you spend it with suffering. Do you want that ?

At least thats my expierence. Been there, did it.

You are still VERY young, have a look around !!!!!

MoveYourA$$.. and your brain will follow
 
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