"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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how to make sure girls dont back off

mrsoy

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hey i just broke up with my gf of 9 months and we decided to be friends. my question is how can i make sure other girls arent weirded out by this but still have my ex as a friend.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Like Pfeile said there isn't any reason for them to be weirded out. In fact it's helpful in loads of ways because if you're ex started *****ing about you to her friends then that would be bad. You're showing that if a relationship doesn't work then you can still be good friends.
 

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well i mean,if they see us talking in the halls or something i dont want people to be like "are they together or what,blahblahblah" idk im probly a little paranoid bout it. we were together for about 10 months so im not totally sure im over her yet so i dont want to end up wanting to get back with her cause i know if i did, id just get that bad feeling again. eh
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MoveYourAss...

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Originally posted by mrsoy
im probly a little paranoid bout it.
Yes you are. Forget about that.

BUT MAKE SURE THAT YOU DON'T HAVE ONEITIS !!!!!!
This will NEVER lead to a good end (because she will simply not be attracted by you but may use you, she also is probably still very young) and then indeed your reputation will be the one of a FOOL AND IDIOT. But the worst is: It will not only be your reputation: you waste a lot of time, and you spend it with suffering. Do you want that ?

At least thats my expierence. Been there, did it.

You are still VERY young, have a look around !!!!!

MoveYourA$$.. and your brain will follow
 
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